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August 6, 2006 at 10:18 am #1084882
General Lighting
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angel wrote:

Its not funny either when your parents dont care about you..

true – I know so many of my friends who have become almost permanently estranged from their parents; also I am saddened by how fragile relationships are even between people with children who are increasingly split between two halves of a family and how some people are not prepared to make sacrifices to look after their children…

I think its a massive problem for progressive communities like party people as well; they need to create proper social and family structures; otherwise those in power will blame all this on the “permissive society” and move back towards “traditional family values and patriarchy” (I see this already happening in the world today”…
August 6, 2006 at 10:37 am #1084886
Raj
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parents can also care too much and leave you no space to be yourself in :hopeless:

TBH parents are all human too [unless there is something i dont know about mine:groucho::groucho::groucho:] and make mistakes just like the rest of us; best plan is to forgive them their failings as parents and see them as people instead – this allows you to move on and gain some distance from the problem which i found was very helpful to me in dealing with it:weee:

in most cases you can usually say that they thought they had your best interests at heart and meant well [ i do personally know of exceptions to this]

:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_flthe best piece of advice i was given about dealing with my family was:
they will play those [mind, power,etc] games whether or not you are there – if you are not there they will find someone or something else to put in the place you currently occupy

and that person was 100% right

i backed out for a bit and they carried on playing the games as though nothing had happened – there was a lot of hostility directed at me for refusing to play the games anymore for the initial period until they realised i was not going to play ever again:crazy_fre:crazy_fre:crazy_fre:crazy_fre

it has improved my life enormously to not play those games any more :horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay:
August 7, 2006 at 3:12 am #1084876
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angel wrote:

i guess i’m just gullable(spelling probs,sorry)

I so much want to believe that people are good and that have let me down many times..

It probably not a gender thing,its just me who dont read people well enough..

no its not you just had some of the same shit . too ollie
August 7, 2006 at 4:22 am #1084895
Angel
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I cant say that i’m happy to find someone who feel like me..

Hope you feel better soon,or write me again,please 🙂
August 7, 2006 at 10:17 am #1084901
Shit Robot
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angel wrote:

Starting to realise my life have sucked from the day i was born.:hopeless: :hopeless:

GDI

Dont feel bad Angel:love::love::love: My Mother left me at age 5 (Never saw her again) to be brought up by my Father who was devastated by the whole thing and NEVER re-married or I suspect trusted Women again.Between them both they have ensured I have become the messed up individual you see before you Today.People often say how hard it must have been for me but TBH I Think Im probably a better person for it,I learned to cook,wash clothes ect at an early age and as a result have been able to look after myself comfortably on a physical and emotional level.Im rambling, just dont feel bad Angel OK?:love::love:

Ooops! good dog opened up a fair bit there:wink::wink:
August 7, 2006 at 10:23 am #1084896
Angel
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:flowers: :flowers: :flowers: :flowers: :flowers: :flowers: :flowers:

:love: T
August 7, 2006 at 10:44 am #1084906
Agent Subby
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Good on yer GoodDog:wink:
Take care mate.
:love:
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