just let him know you know the truth. He may be a “friend” you are better off without…

A very good point GoodDog:wink: . Sometimes the best course of action is to tell a little white lie to protect that person. But only if it’s a LITTLE one.

IMO the only time you should lie to save a friend is when you are sat in a room full of people in uniform with two tape recorders running 😉

I agree with general lighting,I wasnt implying that I lie to my friends (Little white ones or otherwise) just that I know other people can and do.For whatever reason Well intentioned or not.

yep that is true for serious crimes where someone else has been hurt or violence used other than in self defence.. but I would not consider people who do these things to be my friends…

IMO with official people we may not so much “lie” outright but try to talk down the damage/trouble we are causing with such things as drugs/unlicensed parties so people don’t get such heavy penalties.

but I think to combat this we need to have better and more solid morals when interacting with our friends…

hmm – dunno if this is a gender thing?

apparently men are better at sensing aggression than women – it is part of the survival mechanism of all male mammals as they need to know when a fight may occur.

I’ve always been able to tell from the people I meet which ones are more aggressive than others (this is not the same as just being loud/outgoing, or even standing your ground in the face of unfairness/oppression)

in the case of a violent personality it is not very easy to hide it – you notice it in the way they treat others, how they treat animals (especially how they behave towards a pet dog, or if cats often avoid this person)

and often when men get together in a male dominated group (and are not just talking about girls/sex) instead of talking about stuff like bikes / cars / technology or things they have created they will boast about what fights/crimes they have done all the time.

This sort of person will also act in a predatory and manipulative way towards any women, even the girlfriends of people he knows as they feel “well I can fight him if he complains”

Most people who do violent crime aren’t “stupid” – they just don’t think they are wrong and even though they are often fairly good at hiding guilty secreats they are often only caught (even years later) because they let slip they are that sort of person by their behaviour, or they commit violence where there are CCTV cameras, or that they even piss off their friends to the point they are turned in (you must have read news reports where old men are arrested for crimes they did 40 years ago)

some men look up to others who are always fighting but I do not – so if I tend to encounter people like this I nowadays do not go around with them; as you always end up getting into some trouble by doing so…

Maybe its just the fairer sex are just more open to people/situations,where as your male in my experience will often size up the person/situation up before committing any further,where as females will be more open from the start.Hope Im making sense here.:wink:
Ps by open I DO NOT mean gullible.

I think young life (and most of us are still leading “young persons” lifestyles) is hard for everyone.

In the case of Agent Subby and myself there is another side to the coin – both of us have a British Asian background and families are often very close together (despite the inevitable disputes). (I could identify immediately with the situation he had with his mother!)

When you are growing up your parents do take a lot of interest in what you are getting up to; they look after you but there is much pressure to succeed academically, to compete and to work hard (and not be distracted by hedonism)

Parents worry a lot (especially as they see how competitive the world is) and always challenge some aspects of your lifestyles or refuse to accept these aspects altogether.

So sometimes having to carry out “damage limitation exercises” (i.e not giving full extent of what you are up to) is inevitable.