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    Lshak
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      So recently after being exposed to psychedelics and thinking more into my life, the people’s lives, the world and governments and all materialistic shit we buy and do not need. After many very long and interesting conversations with my conscious about these topics, I came to one more. Which will now prove difficult in my life, quite possibly.

      so honestly, I am quite shallow when it comes to women, I know its bad and you can say what you like but whatever … So when I see myself settling done I don’t see It short of anything but a beautiful and intelligent woman, and now I have another thing to add to the list… I will need to meet a woman who is not into TV and who isn’t blind by media and politics, someone who isn’t blind about the world and what’s happening around us like the majority of people.

      so, I know its bad, and I’m very picky when it comes to women. And now I’ve just made it harder for myself … I envy people who can really look into someone’s soul and see them for that and that alone, thinking about it, being shallow is a sense of materialism but in a person…

      Fuck! Just gotta go with the flow I guess and see where I end up.. Haha

      has anyone else had thoughts about the future of who their ideal person would be like? It’s not so much about the looks I’m trying to get at but I can imagine its going to be difficult to find someone who thinks in a similar way to me about the world…

      EDIT: don’t ask about the title, maybe its just a realisation that I won’t be able to settle down with some brainwashed woman who doesn’t have empathy or even her own brain to think from…

      #1268524
      barrettone
      Participant

        Is it shallow to want someone with intelligence? I didn’t know that.

        I don’t know what my ideal person would be like though. Maybe I’ll find out one day, but there’s so many different combinations and possibilities in what a person can be like that I can’t just say, without having experienced it, that “this is it, this is the kind of person I want.” I haven’t made friends that way and I can’t imagine that’s how you find a romantic partner, because people are more than just the sum of their parts.

        #1268521
        p0ly
        Participant

          If you have a lot of romance in your life you’ll know who’s for you realistically.

          I’ve had all kinds of ladies different colours shapes and sizes and all mentally completely fucking different especially when you’re banging them cos then they be themselves which mean you’ll deal with a lot of MADNESS now there’s a lot of forms of madness some are from past experiences bullying etc PAAAAAAAAAAATSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

          MAD GIRL NUMBA ONE fucking SO insecure NEEDS to know EVERY minute that shes loved and everythings ok OR SHE GO BAT SHIT CRAZY FUCKING RING RING RING STOP RINGING THE PHONE WHEN I HANG UP ON YOU

          You have depressive madness too that ones a bit of a shit cunt.. Can remember last year in the summer being twice as cocky as i feel right now (yeah.. TWICE) walking around having the time of my LIFE and I couldn’t help but say around this time cos everything was so perfect… ‘I fucking love my life, i fucking love being me it’s peng’. over and over and i think SHIT winter makes me depressed… but anyway fucking SHE just was a miserable cunt to put it simply.. I couldn’t even say i love my life without her bringing it up later and winging saying that i’m rubbing it in that i’m happy (CUNT).

          Yeah nice one BITCH (Jesse – Breaking Bad)

          before I draw this post to a conclusion i say if you are with a crazy bitch and not considering ending it it’s probably cos the sex is fucking amazing. FUCK A CRAZY PERSON TRUST ME IT’S EPIC!!

          Then i met my gf who i wanted to fuck for ages but never saw her until the end of last year then i got on that ting BANG. WOOF. :weee: when you’re comparing one amazing girl to a load of shitty cuntish mental pricks you’ve been with before it’s easy to see you ain’t gonna find that easy….. END

          #1268515
          thelog
          Participant

            It is not uncommon to have moments of clarity from tkaing psys. This is one of the reasons people have taken psys in traditional since the beginning of time. It helps you make important decisions and guide you down the correct path (well I believe it anyway)

            You need to think more about this and ask yourself the questions again.

            #1268522
            p0ly
            Participant

              As for your attack on society and stuff there’s only really one viable solution other than major hard working hippy…

              and how you manage the oh so horrible things in society:

              http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARYKQ_hEsMw

              The vocals and the track name say it all really.

              #1268530
              Mezz
              Participant

                @Lshak 530957 wrote:

                So recently after being exposed to psychedelics and thinking more into my life, the people’s lives, the world and governments and all materialistic shit we buy and do not need. After many very long and interesting conversations with my conscious about these topics, I came to one more. Which will now prove difficult in my life, quite possibly.

                so honestly, I am quite shallow when it comes to women, I know its bad and you can say what you like but whatever … So when I see myself settling done I don’t see It short of anything but a beautiful and intelligent woman, and now I have another thing to add to the list… I will need to meet a woman who is not into TV and who isn’t blind by media and politics, someone who isn’t blind about the world and what’s happening around us like the majority of people.

                so, I know its bad, and I’m very picky when it comes to women. And now I’ve just made it harder for myself … I envy people who can really look into someone’s soul and see them for that and that alone, thinking about it, being shallow is a sense of materialism but in a person…

                Fuck! Just gotta go with the flow I guess and see where I end up.. Haha

                has anyone else had thoughts about the future of who their ideal person would be like? It’s not so much about the looks I’m trying to get at but I can imagine its going to be difficult to find someone who thinks in a similar way to me about the world…

                EDIT: don’t ask about the title, maybe its just a realisation that I won’t be able to settle down with some brainwashed woman who doesn’t have empathy or even her own brain to think from…

                Free your mind, and you arse will follow lol

                I totally agree, some drugs can give you clarity and understanding on many things including the materialist BS, competitive natures, social pressures & expectations, others can have a similar effect by simply lowering inhibitions and make you not care what anyone else thinks

                On the ladies issue, I think many have the same problem, brainwashed by TV & media to think we should all have the stereotypical hottie………. you know in my late teens I actually dumped a girl once cause I knew my mates would take the piss, K she wasnt no supermodel, kinda average looking, but we had fun together in work and got on well, had a silly drunken one night stand after a works doo and the next day I was actually embarrassed, and being overly concerned with what my friends would think I really hurt her feelings.

                I think your name was Andrea, and your worked with me in SW Parcels, if you ever see this Im sorry I was such a dick, and hope you met someone better

                #1268526
                Lshak
                Participant

                  Well that’s exactly it i mean, I am shallow not because I want some intelligent, but pretty damn hot too, I used to be very ignorant when I was younger and try avoid talking to people who I thought wernt good looking, because it would’ve made me look bad (don’t ask, why I was young, immature and stupid)

                  I’m glad I used to be like that because now I’m just the COMPLETE opposite haha, I’d rather go into a relationship being friends for a while then start dating, just like Barrett said.

                  P0ly, I know what you mean, haha I had one girl that I literally had to RUN away from, and she chased me.. Lol… My latest GF was just so jealous of EVERYTHING, my work, me, how I think, she would even tell me. She just didnt trust me either, she didn’t have a reason to distrust me either… Trust is another big thing I’d need, I may as well just write down a long list.. Lol

                  It seems like I’m waiting for the perfect girl (I kinda am Aswell as everyone else) but I don’t think it’ll ever happen, nothing’s perfect.

                  #1268532
                  Izbeckistan
                  Participant

                    ‘Oh rodney you really are shallower than a worms grave! ‘

                    #1268514
                    sinner69
                    Participant

                      depends what the intelligence is used for, because one is intelligent doest men one cant be shallow, no satisfaction guaranteed, I do not know how deep rocket-engineers are, but they are probably intelligent

                      #1268527
                      Lshak
                      Participant

                        @!sinner69! 531045 wrote:

                        depends what the intelligence is used for, because one is intelligent doest men one cant be shallow, no satisfaction guaranteed, I do not know how deep rocket-engineers are, but they are probably intelligent

                        Very true, I can’t imagine many intelligent people are deep, I think it’s just a characteristic your born with or develop quite early…

                        Common sense even, not many people have it .. Lol, I meet some stupid people sometimes, not bad people at all, just never thinking ahead, not thinking, and hope others will find the solution..

                        #1268516
                        Tank Girl
                        Participant

                          @Lshak 530957 wrote:

                          so honestly, I am quite shallow when it comes to women, I know its bad and you can say what you like but whatever … So when I see myself settling done I don’t see It short of anything but a beautiful and intelligent woman, and now I have another thing to add to the list… I will need to meet a woman who is not into TV and who isn’t blind by media and politics, someone who isn’t blind about the world and what’s happening around us like the majority of people.

                          so, I know its bad, and I’m very picky when it comes to women. And now I’ve just made it harder for myself … I envy people who can really look into someone’s soul and see them for that and that alone, thinking about it, being shallow is a sense of materialism but in a person…

                          I don’t think this is shallow

                          As we have to be physically attracted to our (sexual) ‘mate’ otherwise they would just be our friend :love:

                          and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so what you find attractive may not be someone else’s cup of tea,

                          I dont know how old you are – but I have certainly noticed my ‘taste’ (physically) has changed over the years, and although I think my current partner is a total hottie, he is certainly not my ‘usual’ type, and the first thing that attracted me to him was / is his intelligence!! (esp as I ‘met’ him on here 😉 and didnt meet him in person for some months, and then we were friends for a few years first),

                          and looks don’t always last, esp as we get older, I know some guys who were really sexy, and who I was sexually attracted to in my late teens and early 20’s who I wouldn’t look twice at now (late 30’s) and some guys who physically are very hot, but personality wise hideous and ugly – which certainly impacted my physical attraction to them!!! :hopeless: but people also change – what some girl is interested in in her late teens and early 20’s may be superficial shite, but this may change too as she learns more about the world and sheds the scales from her eyes – as it can be difficult to get perspective at that age – or ‘break out’ from their social circle til uni etc (as highlighted by someone earlier – dumping someone due to their fear of rejection from their friends)

                          And its not necessarily that hard to find the combination of an attractive woman who is intelligent and not ‘blind-sighted’ by media,

                          …… but you may have to look a little bit harder?

                          A lot of my friends are really fit, like to look after themselves, and wear nice clothes etc, who are also independent, left thinking, interested in politics and the environment, but they might not necessarily go to ‘townie’ clubs / bars, but you may find them at ‘alternative’ events – and your current search may be impacted upon by where you live..

                          I have been trying to increase my ‘friendship’ (female) circle, as most of my female friends have had kids and are settled down, and I have found it difficult to find like minded women where I live (suburbia) as there arnt many alternative ‘bars / groups/ meeting places’ – however I have made good friendships online and in the midlands with my partners friends, and this is helping me think about my need to move, and live nearer people who are like-minded to me, as there seems to be a much wider selection of communities there – or I’ve been just lucky in finding them :laugh_at:

                          #1268536
                          korno
                          Participant

                            Does no one ever ask themselves the question, why do i have to find someone of the opposite sex to spend all my spare time with?
                            What’s wrong with your best buddy being your actual other half?
                            Tbh i don’t think i could stand to be with the same person for too long, i always end up hating their guts! I don’t ‘get’ the whole partner/relationship thing and i’ve always found ex boyfriends really space invading and claustrophobia-inducing.

                            I wonder if i’ll feel different ever?

                            #1268517
                            Tank Girl
                            Participant

                              @korno 531141 wrote:

                              i’ve always found ex boyfriends really space invading and claustrophobia-inducing.

                              long term monogamy doesn’t suit everyone, we are after all individuals!

                              the best relationships I’ve seen have been where their partner is also their ‘best friend’ but you also need to want to fuck them if it is to be a sexual partnership

                              but maybe its coz your ex’s have been ‘space invading claustrophobic inducing’ people?

                              you may find someone who pushes your buttons who you can also be an individual with, as despite being in a relationship I personally believe it healthier to retain independence, as codependency isn’t healthy / sexy either

                              #1268540
                              Deez
                              Participant

                                @korno 531141 wrote:

                                Does no one ever ask themselves the question, why do i have to find someone of the opposite sex to spend all my spare time with?
                                What’s wrong with your best buddy being your actual other half?
                                Tbh i don’t think i could stand to be with the same person for too long, i always end up hating their guts! I don’t ‘get’ the whole partner/relationship thing and i’ve always found ex boyfriends really space invading and claustrophobia-inducing.

                                I wonder if i’ll feel different ever?

                                Meh I don’t feel the need to have a girlfriend to be honest. When she comes she’ll come, i’m not gonna stress about it theres bigger things to be worrying about. I don’t know why people think they need to be in a relationsihp tbh.

                                #1268537
                                korno
                                Participant

                                  @Tank Girl 531144 wrote:

                                  long term monogamy doesn’t suit everyone, we are after all individuals!

                                  Maybe this is just simply it then!

                                  #1268538
                                  korno
                                  Participant

                                    @DeezNuts 531147 wrote:

                                    I don’t know why people think they need to be in a relationsihp tbh.

                                    Yeah i don’t get it, it seems that’s what everyone is always striving for? But i personally don’t even ever think about it…
                                    They say it happens when you least expect it… but umm they forget to mention that you need to at least have a door or two open lol

                                    #1268518
                                    Tank Girl
                                    Participant

                                      @korno 531149 wrote:

                                      Maybe this is just simply it then!

                                      Maybe, and there’s nothing wrong with that – your happiness is your main objective in life – so do what makes you happy!

                                      There have been people on here with all sorts of relationships – from err.. bugger whats the word for it – Polyamory, I think the relationships talked about on here were with 3 individuals, people who are celibate through choice and people who have multiple sexual partners without any specific ‘relationship’

                                      I think as long as you are happy with what you choose to do, and are not immoral (setting out to harm others) the way you choose to live your life is your choice, and no one can tell you you are wrong, or missing out.

                                      One of the worst things I cant stand is ‘smug’ couples who’s belief that just coz being in a relationship makes them excessively happy people who aren’t in a relationship are somehow missing out or lonely. Which is tosh, especially when you can be lonely in a relationship too!

                                      #1268519
                                      Tank Girl
                                      Participant
                                        #1268539
                                        korno
                                        Participant

                                          @Tank Girl 531153 wrote:

                                          One of the worst things I cant stand is ‘smug’ couples who’s belief that just coz being in a relationship makes them excessively happy people who aren’t in a relationship are somehow missing out or lonely. Which is tosh.

                                          Ah yes i know a few of those types, the smuggest of the smuggest for sure, when they are getting along! Yet when they arn’t on the same level as each other, what i (an outsider) sees, is a heck of a lot more arguing and crying and emotional turmoil in 1 week then what I as a single person have had to experience in 1 year. Then who is smug? 😉

                                          ”I think as long as you are happy with what you choose to do, and are not immoral (setting out to harm others) the way you choose to live your life is your choice, and no one can tell you you are wrong, or missing out.”
                                          I think there’s a good bit of advice for you also Lshak…
                                          I don’t think what you’re looking for is really shallow at all, but what are you 20? Maybe you’ll find that girl but not be so hung up on her being fit/good looking as you get older, of course you’d need to be attracted to her but your desires in attraction will surely change over time and you’ll be more likely to find an intelligent woman.

                                          #1268533
                                          Izbeckistan
                                          Participant

                                            I think its really important for individuals to like being alone. You are one of the only people in life that will be there for you from start to finish.

                                            ”Man is nothing else but what he makes of himself.”

                                            #1268534
                                            The Psyentist
                                            Participant

                                              I’ve just realised I’m totally wasted:crazy:

                                              But can still spell, I WIN!

                                              #1268535
                                              The Psyentist
                                              Participant

                                                Probably spelt something wrong lol

                                                #1268528
                                                Lshak
                                                Participant

                                                  Very interesting and great points there tank girl and korno, will make sure I keep them in mind 🙂 I’m in no rush to find my ideal partner, just that’s what my ideal person at this time in my life would be like, in the future. But like korno pointed out, with time passed, passes different thoughts and what I may find attractive, interesting or even boring within day to day life to where I am in that current moment in time.

                                                  #1268523
                                                  Gylfi Gudbjornsson
                                                  Participant

                                                    @The Psyentist 531199 wrote:

                                                    Probably spelt something wrong lol

                                                    nope, all grammatical present and correct.

                                                    #1268513
                                                    General Lighting
                                                    Moderator

                                                      @korno 531158 wrote:

                                                      Ah yes i know a few of those types, the smuggest of the smuggest for sure, when they are getting along! Yet when they arn’t on the same level as each other, what i (an outsider) sees, is a heck of a lot more arguing and crying and emotional turmoil in 1 week then what I as a single person have had to experience in 1 year. Then who is smug? 😉

                                                      in my old city I used to constantly hear on my radio scanner one half of a couple calling the Police to their shared house after arguments and as I could hear all the addresses and names I knew many of them claimed to be “alternative / fuck the system / anarchist ” types what would bang on about being able to sort out their differences peacefully and without needing authority to do it for them.. :hopeless:

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