Forums The Vibe Chat Is it possible to be yourself with other people?

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  • #1042776
    Techno Viking
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    What do you think?

    #1124012
    Digital-A
    Participant

    I am only myself with my girlfriend, everybody else gets a different tomm, sometimes that can suck.

    #1144929
    Digital-A
    Participant

    I am only myself with my girlfriend, everybody else gets a different tomm, sometimes that can suck.

    #1123993
    Techno Viking
    Participant

    I know what you mean. Interesting question eh?!

    #1144910
    Techno Viking
    Participant

    I know what you mean. Interesting question eh?!

    #1124013
    Digital-A
    Participant

    it is indeed, makes me actually wonder how different i really am around different people.

    always a sigh of relief when im round my girlfriend though, feels like i can relax and calm down … not being yourself can be hard work.

    although i must say, in sensitive moments around friends i retract and become myself. interesting.

    #1144930
    Digital-A
    Participant

    it is indeed, makes me actually wonder how different i really am around different people.

    always a sigh of relief when im round my girlfriend though, feels like i can relax and calm down … not being yourself can be hard work.

    although i must say, in sensitive moments around friends i retract and become myself. interesting.

    #1124011
    starlaugh
    Participant

    I am myself around most people, well sometimes i tone myself down when i first meet people as i really dont want to scare them.

    If people dont like who i am screw them, its not them that i want to keep happy its myself………….

    #1144928
    starlaugh
    Participant

    I am myself around most people, well sometimes i tone myself down when i first meet people as i really dont want to scare them.

    If people dont like who i am screw them, its not them that i want to keep happy its myself………….

    #1123994
    Techno Viking
    Participant

    I think myself most of all with my close family, girlfriend and daughter but there are degrees of me I recon…

    #1144911
    Techno Viking
    Participant

    I think myself most of all with my close family, girlfriend and daughter but there are degrees of me I recon…

    #1124003
    mudstomper
    Participant

    I was myself with my ex girlfriend, reckon thats why shes my ex :crazy: I guess I’m slightly different things to different people but don’t relish the idea of having to change myself too much for anyone

    #1144920
    mudstomper
    Participant

    I was myself with my ex girlfriend, reckon thats why shes my ex :crazy: I guess I’m slightly different things to different people but don’t relish the idea of having to change myself too much for anyone

    #1124006
    Angel
    Moderator

    I don’t think I’m 100% myself around any other people..

    Right now it’s very difficult for me to be myself in front of my own family

    I trust a few people enough to show them 99% of the real me..

    I think I’m really only myself when I’m alone

    #1144923
    Angel
    Moderator

    I don’t think I’m 100% myself around any other people..

    Right now it’s very difficult for me to be myself in front of my own family

    I trust a few people enough to show them 99% of the real me..

    I think I’m really only myself when I’m alone

    #1124004
    Raj
    Participant

    I used to be what Angel is describing. In those days I was coming to terms with serious life shit and new restrictions on my life/health.

    Nowadays you meet me as I am though I am still intensely private. I am always the person I want to be in a particular situation [sometimes work enviroments require masks to get round people’s preconceptions] and I am more open with people than I used to be. TBH like SL I tone down who I am for people I dont know – not so much pretending to be something else as not being in their face about it.

    I do have very close personal friends with whom there are no pretenses required to oil the social machinery [these are very few and far between but priceless people who are able to deal with me unadultarated and uncensored] I am lucky – my partner is one of these people and I dont know how I would get through a day without them :love:

    #1144921
    Raj
    Participant

    I used to be what Angel is describing. In those days I was coming to terms with serious life shit and new restrictions on my life/health.

    Nowadays you meet me as I am though I am still intensely private. I am always the person I want to be in a particular situation [sometimes work enviroments require masks to get round people’s preconceptions] and I am more open with people than I used to be. TBH like SL I tone down who I am for people I dont know – not so much pretending to be something else as not being in their face about it.

    I do have very close personal friends with whom there are no pretenses required to oil the social machinery [these are very few and far between but priceless people who are able to deal with me unadultarated and uncensored] I am lucky – my partner is one of these people and I dont know how I would get through a day without them :love:

    #1123996
    BioTech
    Participant

    I’d say I’m myself around my girlfriend, brother and close friends (Titch being one of them). Around others I usually slip in to another personality to suit theirs. It’s not really a conscious thing, I sometimes don’t realise I’m doing it and then notice it later. My voice even changes sometimes.

    Essentially it’s me but with a few tweaks. I can’t help it. Obviously there are some people you can immediately make your mind up on and you will hold back parts of your personality to not offend.

    I don’t really think it’s a case of being real, devious, or not true to yourself I just think it’s often an essential skill that you develop to make life easier and get by. I think it’s pretty rare that people act themselves with everyone.

    #1144913
    BioTech
    Participant

    I’d say I’m myself around my girlfriend, brother and close friends (Titch being one of them). Around others I usually slip in to another personality to suit theirs. It’s not really a conscious thing, I sometimes don’t realise I’m doing it and then notice it later. My voice even changes sometimes.

    Essentially it’s me but with a few tweaks. I can’t help it. Obviously there are some people you can immediately make your mind up on and you will hold back parts of your personality to not offend.

    I don’t really think it’s a case of being real, devious, or not true to yourself I just think it’s often an essential skill that you develop to make life easier and get by. I think it’s pretty rare that people act themselves with everyone.

    #1124014
    Digital-A
    Participant
    BioTech wrote:
    I’d say I’m myself around my girlfriend, brother and close friends (Titch being one of them). Around others I usually slip in to another personality to suit theirs. It’s not really a conscious thing, I sometimes don’t realise I’m doing it and then notice it later. My voice even changes sometimes.

    Essentially it’s me but with a few tweaks. I can’t help it. Obviously there are some people you can immediately make your mind up on and you will hold back parts of your personality to not offend.

    I don’t really think it’s a case of being real, devious, or not true to yourself I just think it’s often an essential skill that you develop to make life easier and get by. I think it’s pretty rare that people act themselves with everyone.

    i think youve put what i was trying to say perfectly there mate 🙂

    #1144931
    Digital-A
    Participant
    BioTech wrote:
    I’d say I’m myself around my girlfriend, brother and close friends (Titch being one of them). Around others I usually slip in to another personality to suit theirs. It’s not really a conscious thing, I sometimes don’t realise I’m doing it and then notice it later. My voice even changes sometimes.

    Essentially it’s me but with a few tweaks. I can’t help it. Obviously there are some people you can immediately make your mind up on and you will hold back parts of your personality to not offend.

    I don’t really think it’s a case of being real, devious, or not true to yourself I just think it’s often an essential skill that you develop to make life easier and get by. I think it’s pretty rare that people act themselves with everyone.

    i think youve put what i was trying to say perfectly there mate 🙂

    #1124008
    MisterDuck
    Participant

    i’m more myself around close mates than family. and when i was with my ex i was always myself, cos i was completely comfortable bein so

    #1144925
    MisterDuck
    Participant

    i’m more myself around close mates than family. and when i was with my ex i was always myself, cos i was completely comfortable bein so

    #1124016
    tarifa
    Participant

    had to think about this

    i am always 100% myself

    i am me at work, me with friends an family, me when i’m nervous (meeting new people or in a challenging situation), me when i’m being crappy and me when i’m on form

    in certain situations i’m great, in others i might be awful but its always all me

    make sense?

    #1144933
    tarifa
    Participant

    had to think about this

    i am always 100% myself

    i am me at work, me with friends an family, me when i’m nervous (meeting new people or in a challenging situation), me when i’m being crappy and me when i’m on form

    in certain situations i’m great, in others i might be awful but its always all me

    make sense?

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