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    Roly
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    i have a problem
    when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

    #1072443
    General Lighting
    Moderator
    Roly wrote:
    i have a problem
    when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

    I think it happens to a lot of ravers when they reach their mid to late 20s – its a combination of worry and anger and tends to affect a lot of people who as they progress in life.

    I get this as well a lot of the times but I usually get round it at raves by finding something else to do – someone to talk to; a new part of the building or area to explore, other friends of mine have mentioned the same thing as well.

    ISTR you are a medical student which must mean a lot of study, exams and a heap of advancing responsibilities as one day you will be responsible for others lives, and that is always in the back of your mind.

    we often lead an extreme lifestyle which is not accepted by “normal society” – the use of drugs, there is always a risk of hassle with the criminal justice system, often people around us are suspicious or wary of our weekend activities – and if you are otherwise a decent person you are always thinking of the risks this lifestyle causes – including the threat of unemployment and/or prison.

    TBH I think lots of people have these worries but they blot them out with alcohol, ketamine or other drugs.

    But if you can control these worries it can be a good thing; it stops you going to far and makes you a survivor as they can make you think more about other people and the effects your actions have on them.

    #1072467
    .nes.
    Participant
    Roly wrote:
    i have a problem
    when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

    ….just chill….:hiding: ….life’s pointless if keep focusing bad stuff all t time..

    #1072446
    Roly
    Participant

    mate, thank you. and i really mean that. i dont know what i’m gonna do. i feel better from what you have said that i’m not on my own and its a common thing.but i’m bricking it about when i qualify and i’m really suffering from self doubt. i really appreciate that you said it is common thing, but its still a nasty place to be.

    #1072460
    Johnson
    Participant

    hahahaha, you sad dik.

    #1072452
    atm23
    Participant

    These kind of feelins are perectly normal , but do tend to get amplified if your spooned out on this and that. If you have un-resolved anxieties about things my advice would be to avoid getting to wasted.

    I’ve been ravin for nearly 15years and hvae a fairly high presuured job and have gone through (like most people) my fair share of personnel issues.

    If i look back at the really bad times my drug usage rose accordingly at one point to a fairly obscene level IMO and I cant say it was dojn g me a lot of good. It was like I wasnt even acknowledging that I was doing it but wwould end up wandering about on my own taking more and never really thinking things through clearly.

    My advice is try and deal with your issues, when your straight, they never seem so bad when your heads not mangled and you might even be able to lay some of them to rest. have those difficult conversations even if they are with your self !!

    Try and hold it down with the drugs, and if your out and you start to feel a bit skechy go and have a proper dance sounds odd but it always works for me, it provides genuine release and a sence of inner peace far beyond just being spooned out in the corner.

    ezee up on yourself..and lay off the rocks and PCP :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

    #1072461
    Johnson
    Participant

    If your worrying about undeveloped camera films, surely you need to lay off the drugs

    #1072453
    atm23
    Participant
    Johnson wrote:
    If your worrying about undeveloped camera films, surely you need to lay off the drugs

    Thats doesnt even register on the scale of “insignificant things to worry about” for a start off you can write it down and other prople can understand it !!

    #1072462
    Johnson
    Participant

    Right,

    #1072454
    atm23
    Participant
    Johnson wrote:
    Right,

    glad you agree:bigsmile: …. Mr Empathy:crazy_fre

    #1072463
    Johnson
    Participant

    This actually happen to me once before, I forgot my pencil one morning for work.

    #1072449
    globalloon
    Participant

    one in four people suffer some form of mental health problem during their life

    if you’ve ever felt stressed, for example, you’re one of them

    asking for advice and support from friends early on can only be a good thing.. it means you’re not trying to ignore your problems… and you’ll usually find that you not alone (by any stretch of the imagination)

    and if people take the piss, it’s probably because they have issues of their own that they’re trying to hide from

    #1072466
    Depraved
    Participant
    Roly wrote:
    i have a problem
    when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

    Stop doing drugs

    #1072447
    Roly
    Participant

    I think you are right. perhaps i ought to lay off ’em for a bit, at least until i’ve got my head/life straight again. must be a symptom off getting old. cheers for the advice

    #1072445
    vicky
    Participant

    I’ve suffered from paranoia and depression many times in my life – seems to be a kind of circular thing that spirals back in on you when you’re not expecting it.

    I think the advice you’ve been given is good though – lay off the drugs (not easy when you’re feeling low cos you mostly just want to forget everything), but they’re obviously not helping in any way.

    I broke my back a few years ago, got majorly depressed, and lost my appetite for getting shitfaced. I’ve found in recent years that i actually have a better time at parties and clubs if I don’t get mashed anymore – I never thought I would be able to rave without being off my head but I’ve found i actually have a better time (though maybe a little less stamina!). I appreciate my surroundigs more, don’t get sketched out as much, and don’t suffer from three days of depression afterwards (three days of worrying that I have nothing to worry about)

    Dancing for me is the best drug there is – nothing makes me feel more positive.
    I hope you get out of your current funk Roly – just remember that many of us have been down that road and when it gets like that, its time to take a break and fix your head.

    good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

    #1072464
    LadyProdigy
    Participant
    Depraved wrote:
    Stop doing drugs

    No. Start doing smack. :lol_big:

    #1072468
    rainbows
    Participant
    Roly wrote:
    i have a problem
    when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

    It can be difficult to change your thought pattern, you just got to acknowledge the thought, then let it go, you can cancel any thought you dont want to have, just think I’ll cancel that thought cos its not a good thought, with practice, youll soon be thinking, happy things.

    Youve made the first step by acknowledging its a problem, you’ll soon be alriteXX

    laying off drugs for a while will help, whatever you do do not go to the docs, cos they just give you drugs that will make u even worse.

    #1072444
    General Lighting
    Moderator
    rainbows wrote:
    laying off drugs for a while will help, whatever you do do not go to the docs, cos they just give you drugs that will make u even worse.

    Roly is actually studying to be a doctor – that’s probably why he is worrying so much and I can wholly understand this!

    He’s got to not only pass his exams but do all those long hours on NHS wards etc clearly this would be stressful anyway plus theres the paranoia of having to live a double life (yeah I know doctors and NHS staff cane bare drugs but its not good being caught!)

    I work in healthcare as well – I don’t actually look after people (just as well TBH!) but I work in accounts/IT and I understand the stress a lot of frontline people go through (don’t worry I’m not NHS staff so its not me cutting your budgets ๐Ÿ˜‰ )

    Its also a bit of anger as well that you are being forced out of a lifestyle you like and having to make these sacrifices but its worth it in the end; when people like Roly become doctors they may be more able to deal more objectively with such issues as recreational drug use and mental health..

    #1072469
    rainbows
    Participant

    Worry and stress in itself can make you ill, if an aspect of your life is making you worried and stressed, you got to look at it, and ask yourself if its worth it. Medicine has done wonders, I do understand though, that drugs really dont do us any favours, people go to the docs, and they just want the doc to make them better, so the doc keeps them happy, by giving them some drugs of some sort. Antibiotics suppress the illness inside you, Natural healing is so much better for us humans.

    We all have the ability to heal ourselves from any illness, and the sooner people realise that and start working on themselves, the better, it will take so much pressure off the health service and Doctors, and just think how much money would be saved, There wouldnt be the need for NHS, if people took responsibility for themselves.

    #1072448
    Roly
    Participant

    am now qualified(is that a word?) have done it!! now i need to get waseted (is that another word?). thank you people had bit of a head trauma there, i needed to sound off. you know how it is. where is the best place to go? it needs 3 critera: 1 its gotta be really friendly cos i’m gonna be on my own,2, randomness is encourged, 3, is gotta play some kick ass tunes. if u know of such a place please let me know

    #1072470
    Shit Robot
    Participant

    Quote “start doing smack” Quote You Serious?:you_crazy:you_crazy

    #1072458
    Raj
    Participant
    Roly wrote:
    am now qualified(is that a word?) have done it!! now i need to get waseted (is that another word?). thank you people had bit of a head trauma there, i needed to sound off. you know how it is. where is the best place to go? it needs 3 critera: 1 its gotta be really friendly cos i’m gonna be on my own,2, randomness is encourged, 3, is gotta play some kick ass tunes. if u know of such a place please let me know

    i am glad you are qualified mate

    well done :horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay:

    cant help you with local parties but i hope you find something
    :bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl

    #1072451
    missMushed
    Participant

    stay positive and remember that the only way you can feel happy is by letting yourself be happy. The best book ever for this is the little book of happiness (IMO) it helped put things into a simple perspective for me, and in times of woe a quick read perks me up again! http://www.amazon.com/Little-Book-Happiness-Patrick-Whiteside/dp/0740710311

    have a read, and hope it helps xxx

    #1072455
    quietRIOT
    Participant
    Roly wrote:
    i have a problem
    when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

    :laugh_at: :crazy_dru

    #1072450
    globalloon
    Participant
    april wrote:
    :laugh_at: :crazy_dru

    what’s funny?

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