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    p0ly
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    So on TV and films when you see a marriage it’s always that same old shitty routine where they say all these cheesy gay lines and stuff. I know it’s possibly to get married in a registry office but how does that work? is it possible for it to be really informal and just basically sign a form? personally i think marriage ceremonies are pretty poor but that’s just me.

    #1240058
    Bogey
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    I got married in a registry office in 1994 . we were late , a few worried
    faces . we forgot we had to pay and had to borrow some money off the guests!
    the vows were basic compared to a church . so quite informal.
    i think you can now tailor it more to suit yourself.
    we went to Glastonbury for our honeymoon (should have got married there or on the Tor)

    #1240068
    Bloodbath Kane
    Participant

    wts the diffeence between get married n simply be together?
    screw the social moral code, f**k the tradition, n down with the govn’t regulation!

    #1240060
    Bogey
    Participant

    I agree we didnt need to get “married” . And after we got “Divorced” we carried on seeing each other
    for three years anyway .

    #1240069
    kiwifruit
    Participant

    marriage ssmarrige.
    Been there done that got the t shirt.
    Too much hype.
    Divorced in 2001.
    Just isn’t something that would appeal to me to do again. Not fussed on dresses. Or shoes.

    However to answer your question, it can be as informal as you like with no hassle at the registery office.
    P0ly if you are marrying someone from a country outside the EU for a couple thousand quid then it can be a huge hassle at the registry 🙂

    #1240061
    p0ly
    Participant

    no plans for marriage never liked the idea, think it’s just to do with money anyway.

    #1240054
    Tank Girl
    Participant

    My sister phoned me up – what are you doing next thus? I dunno was my reply,
    She said get it off work we’re getting married!

    She turned up (with one of their children as flower girl, the 2nd in her belly, they now have 3) in a hippie long floaty skirt, flip flops and a white vest top, he had 3/4 trousers and trainers (new mind :wink:) and they did the do – and we all went down the pub – job done! (I must say….. I’d have chosen a nicer pub :laugh_at:)

    and several other people I know have done similar – I think these are generally friends of mine who want what they perceive as commitment or they doing it for legal reasons coz of the kids, Marcus’s sister did the same but I dont think any one was invited – but basically for the kids or coz they ‘been there done it’.

    met a couple at the weekend that did the same he was like – I wore my old suit, she wore one of her dresses, £137 job done!! :laugh_at:

    better than other people I know who have spent £20K + and are divorced before even paying it off……..

    #1240062
    p0ly
    Participant

    is it mandatory to get asked those questions in that really old fashioned gay manner?

    #1240044
    Anonymous

    @p0ly 437504 wrote:

    is it mandatory to get asked those questions in that really old fashioned gay manner?

    nope

    #1240051
    General Lighting
    Moderator

    These are the minimum legally necessary words. They vary depending which country of the UK you are in. Of course in todays multicultural world the rest of the ceremony can be tailored to the wishes of the couple, their family and representatives of faith groups if they are part of one, so weddings are very variable in format these days, compared to old movies and TV shows made by people mostly from a Christian background.

    WeddingGuideUK.com – Writing Your Own Vows

    #1240063
    p0ly
    Participant

    thanks for that.

    #1240067
    Fizzbombheid
    Participant

    Me & mrsf tried t conform to conformity. Yeah.. we thought we we will do this do that?? Kels? be a lovevely bride? would ya like it in Lancs or Jockland?

    Na!

    What aboot Las VEgas$$. But money stopped us ironickly <Sp

    this is over a 20 year period. Fact is if you are for some one-you are for for someone.

    to the day i die mrs fizz is mine and vice-versa and no piece of paper will eveer change that.

    #1240066
    Lt Luna
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    I have never wanted to get married. I am not religious nor do I see it as a celebration of love..

    I do see big weddings as tacky but if that makes them happy I have nothing against it.

    #1240052
    Acidfairy
    Participant

    I never ever thought i’d get married until I met Matt… and neither did he till he met me… it just feel right… we’re getting married in a hotel down here.. i’m not wearing white i’m wearing purple and he’s gonna be in steampunkesque gear… we’re writing our own vows and then we’re having a celtic handfasting ceremony up in Scotland as well…

    #1240045
    Anonymous

    I want to get married in tweed

    #1240064
    p0ly
    Participant

    @Acidfairy 437608 wrote:

    I never ever thought i’d get married until I met Matt… and neither did he till he met me… it just feel right… we’re getting married in a hotel down here.. i’m not wearing white i’m wearing purple and he’s gonna be in steampunkesque gear… we’re writing our own vows and then we’re having a celtic handfasting ceremony up in Scotland as well…

    STAAAARRRT WEARIN DA PURPLE WEARIN DA PURPLE, START WEARIN PURPLE FOR ME NOOOOW!

    #1240046
    Anonymous

    i think marriage is a cool idea cos they’re so mushy and romantic and lalalaa.
    it’s not about conforming to social roles, it’s just a sweet thing to do.

    #1240065
    p0ly
    Participant

    and gay 😉 the ones i’ve seen anyway

    #1240047
    Anonymous

    as long as there are salmon canapes then i am there!

    #1240055
    Tank Girl
    Participant

    @p0ly 437637 wrote:

    and gay 😉 the ones i’ve seen anyway

    unfortunately Homosexuals still cant get married, which is fucking ridiculous,
    a civil partnership is not the same

    #1240048
    Anonymous

    @Tank Girl 437654 wrote:

    unfortunately Homosexuals still cant get married, which is fucking ridiculous,
    a civil partnership is not the same

    does it not give you the same legal rights as a married couple?

    #1240056
    Tank Girl
    Participant

    @extraslim 437655 wrote:

    does it not give you the same legal rights as a married couple?

    OutRage!

    not as far as I am aware, it may sound ‘technical difference’ ……..but it is still inequality

    Is there a legal difference between the two?

    The Civil Partnership Act 2004 gave same-sex couples the rights and responsibilities similar to those in a civil marriage. Civil partners are entitled to the same property rights, the same exemptions on inheritance tax, social security and pension benefits as married couples. They also have the same ability to get parental responsibility for a partner’s children as well as reasonable maintenance, tenancy rights, insurance and next-of-kin rights in hospital and with doctors. There is a process similar to divorce for dissolving a civil partnership.

    So why don’t they have the same status under English law?

    In 2006, Sir Mark Potter, president of the high court family division, told an academic lesbian couple that they faced an “insurmountable hurdle” in trying to have a same-sex marriage recognised in English law. He said marriage was regarded as an “age-old institution” that was “by longstanding definition and acceptance” a formal relationship between a man and a woman primarily designed for producing and rearing children. The couple, Celia Kitzinger and Sue Wilkinson, who were married in Canada and spent their life savings on the court battle, said they were deeply disappointed saying they had been “stripped” of their marriage.

    Any practical differences in the ceremonies?

    Until now it has been banned for civil partnership ceremonies to include religious readings, music or symbols and forbidden for them to take place in religious venues, regardless of the views of the building’s owners. In Scotland, which has its own legislation, some church parishes offer blessing ceremonies for same-sex couples.

    Any other practical differences?

    Civil partners of male peers or knights do not receive a courtesy title to which the spouse of a peer or knight would be entitled.

    On a technical level there are differences. A partnership is formed when the second of the two parties signs the partnership papers. This is not necessarily a public ceremony or even an event that happens at the same time as the first signature.

    This flexibility means that couples can essentially become partnered in private, if they wish. In contrast, a marriage happens when the partners exchange spoken words and also sign the register.

    Another important distinction is that marriage as a word has religious connotations, even if a ceremony is only civil. Marriages can be conducted by Church of England clergy without any civil preliminaries being required. Civil partnerships are only conducted by registrars.

    :you_crazy :hopeless:

    #1240053
    sinner69
    Participant

    Been there, done that > never again!

    #1240049
    Anonymous

    @Tank Girl 437667 wrote:

    OutRage!

    not as far as I am aware, it may sound ‘technical difference’ ……..but it is still inequality

    :you_crazy :hopeless:

    assuming the legal rights are the same (and they seem to be from a quick read of what u posted) I dont see why marriage cannot mean something that happens between a man and a woman. Especially as historically it always has been just that.

    #1240057
    Tank Girl
    Participant

    @extraslim 437684 wrote:

    assuming the legal rights are the same (and they seem to be from a quick read of what u posted) I dont see why marriage cannot mean something that happens between a man and a woman. Especially as historically it always has been just that.

    I think we need to move with the times, even the some of the church recognises gay priests ….

    and there have always been same sex couples – why cant they be married – or on the opposite – why cant men and women have civil partnerships if they want?

    I guess its a personal thing for me – I dont think it is fair – i.e. it we take it to the extreme and said – if we couldnt have interracial marriages – there’d be alot more controvosey – its still inequality in my eyes,

    and dont forget not all countries or states in america even allow same sex civil parnterships

    (saying this I am not a huge fan of marriage or anything, or the religious aspect)

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