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    Roly
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      i have a problem
      when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

      #1072443
      General Lighting
      Moderator
        Roly wrote:
        i have a problem
        when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

        I think it happens to a lot of ravers when they reach their mid to late 20s – its a combination of worry and anger and tends to affect a lot of people who as they progress in life.

        I get this as well a lot of the times but I usually get round it at raves by finding something else to do – someone to talk to; a new part of the building or area to explore, other friends of mine have mentioned the same thing as well.

        ISTR you are a medical student which must mean a lot of study, exams and a heap of advancing responsibilities as one day you will be responsible for others lives, and that is always in the back of your mind.

        we often lead an extreme lifestyle which is not accepted by “normal society” – the use of drugs, there is always a risk of hassle with the criminal justice system, often people around us are suspicious or wary of our weekend activities – and if you are otherwise a decent person you are always thinking of the risks this lifestyle causes – including the threat of unemployment and/or prison.

        TBH I think lots of people have these worries but they blot them out with alcohol, ketamine or other drugs.

        But if you can control these worries it can be a good thing; it stops you going to far and makes you a survivor as they can make you think more about other people and the effects your actions have on them.

        #1072467
        .nes.
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          Roly wrote:
          i have a problem
          when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

          ….just chill….:hiding: ….life’s pointless if keep focusing bad stuff all t time..

          #1072446
          Roly
          Participant

            mate, thank you. and i really mean that. i dont know what i’m gonna do. i feel better from what you have said that i’m not on my own and its a common thing.but i’m bricking it about when i qualify and i’m really suffering from self doubt. i really appreciate that you said it is common thing, but its still a nasty place to be.

            #1072460
            Johnson
            Participant

              hahahaha, you sad dik.

              #1072452
              atm23
              Participant

                These kind of feelins are perectly normal , but do tend to get amplified if your spooned out on this and that. If you have un-resolved anxieties about things my advice would be to avoid getting to wasted.

                I’ve been ravin for nearly 15years and hvae a fairly high presuured job and have gone through (like most people) my fair share of personnel issues.

                If i look back at the really bad times my drug usage rose accordingly at one point to a fairly obscene level IMO and I cant say it was dojn g me a lot of good. It was like I wasnt even acknowledging that I was doing it but wwould end up wandering about on my own taking more and never really thinking things through clearly.

                My advice is try and deal with your issues, when your straight, they never seem so bad when your heads not mangled and you might even be able to lay some of them to rest. have those difficult conversations even if they are with your self !!

                Try and hold it down with the drugs, and if your out and you start to feel a bit skechy go and have a proper dance sounds odd but it always works for me, it provides genuine release and a sence of inner peace far beyond just being spooned out in the corner.

                ezee up on yourself..and lay off the rocks and PCP :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

                #1072461
                Johnson
                Participant

                  If your worrying about undeveloped camera films, surely you need to lay off the drugs

                  #1072453
                  atm23
                  Participant
                    Johnson wrote:
                    If your worrying about undeveloped camera films, surely you need to lay off the drugs

                    Thats doesnt even register on the scale of “insignificant things to worry about” for a start off you can write it down and other prople can understand it !!

                    #1072462
                    Johnson
                    Participant

                      Right,

                      #1072454
                      atm23
                      Participant
                        Johnson wrote:
                        Right,

                        glad you agree:bigsmile: …. Mr Empathy:crazy_fre

                        #1072463
                        Johnson
                        Participant

                          This actually happen to me once before, I forgot my pencil one morning for work.

                          #1072449
                          globalloon
                          Participant

                            one in four people suffer some form of mental health problem during their life

                            if you’ve ever felt stressed, for example, you’re one of them

                            asking for advice and support from friends early on can only be a good thing.. it means you’re not trying to ignore your problems… and you’ll usually find that you not alone (by any stretch of the imagination)

                            and if people take the piss, it’s probably because they have issues of their own that they’re trying to hide from

                            #1072466
                            Depraved
                            Participant
                              Roly wrote:
                              i have a problem
                              when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

                              Stop doing drugs

                              #1072447
                              Roly
                              Participant

                                I think you are right. perhaps i ought to lay off ’em for a bit, at least until i’ve got my head/life straight again. must be a symptom off getting old. cheers for the advice

                                #1072445
                                vicky
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                                  I’ve suffered from paranoia and depression many times in my life – seems to be a kind of circular thing that spirals back in on you when you’re not expecting it.

                                  I think the advice you’ve been given is good though – lay off the drugs (not easy when you’re feeling low cos you mostly just want to forget everything), but they’re obviously not helping in any way.

                                  I broke my back a few years ago, got majorly depressed, and lost my appetite for getting shitfaced. I’ve found in recent years that i actually have a better time at parties and clubs if I don’t get mashed anymore – I never thought I would be able to rave without being off my head but I’ve found i actually have a better time (though maybe a little less stamina!). I appreciate my surroundigs more, don’t get sketched out as much, and don’t suffer from three days of depression afterwards (three days of worrying that I have nothing to worry about)

                                  Dancing for me is the best drug there is – nothing makes me feel more positive.
                                  I hope you get out of your current funk Roly – just remember that many of us have been down that road and when it gets like that, its time to take a break and fix your head.

                                  good luck 🙂

                                  #1072464
                                  LadyProdigy
                                  Participant
                                    Depraved wrote:
                                    Stop doing drugs

                                    No. Start doing smack. :lol_big:

                                    #1072468
                                    rainbows
                                    Participant
                                      Roly wrote:
                                      i have a problem
                                      when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

                                      It can be difficult to change your thought pattern, you just got to acknowledge the thought, then let it go, you can cancel any thought you dont want to have, just think I’ll cancel that thought cos its not a good thought, with practice, youll soon be thinking, happy things.

                                      Youve made the first step by acknowledging its a problem, you’ll soon be alriteXX

                                      laying off drugs for a while will help, whatever you do do not go to the docs, cos they just give you drugs that will make u even worse.

                                      #1072444
                                      General Lighting
                                      Moderator
                                        rainbows wrote:
                                        laying off drugs for a while will help, whatever you do do not go to the docs, cos they just give you drugs that will make u even worse.

                                        Roly is actually studying to be a doctor – that’s probably why he is worrying so much and I can wholly understand this!

                                        He’s got to not only pass his exams but do all those long hours on NHS wards etc clearly this would be stressful anyway plus theres the paranoia of having to live a double life (yeah I know doctors and NHS staff cane bare drugs but its not good being caught!)

                                        I work in healthcare as well – I don’t actually look after people (just as well TBH!) but I work in accounts/IT and I understand the stress a lot of frontline people go through (don’t worry I’m not NHS staff so its not me cutting your budgets 😉 )

                                        Its also a bit of anger as well that you are being forced out of a lifestyle you like and having to make these sacrifices but its worth it in the end; when people like Roly become doctors they may be more able to deal more objectively with such issues as recreational drug use and mental health..

                                        #1072469
                                        rainbows
                                        Participant

                                          Worry and stress in itself can make you ill, if an aspect of your life is making you worried and stressed, you got to look at it, and ask yourself if its worth it. Medicine has done wonders, I do understand though, that drugs really dont do us any favours, people go to the docs, and they just want the doc to make them better, so the doc keeps them happy, by giving them some drugs of some sort. Antibiotics suppress the illness inside you, Natural healing is so much better for us humans.

                                          We all have the ability to heal ourselves from any illness, and the sooner people realise that and start working on themselves, the better, it will take so much pressure off the health service and Doctors, and just think how much money would be saved, There wouldnt be the need for NHS, if people took responsibility for themselves.

                                          #1072448
                                          Roly
                                          Participant

                                            am now qualified(is that a word?) have done it!! now i need to get waseted (is that another word?). thank you people had bit of a head trauma there, i needed to sound off. you know how it is. where is the best place to go? it needs 3 critera: 1 its gotta be really friendly cos i’m gonna be on my own,2, randomness is encourged, 3, is gotta play some kick ass tunes. if u know of such a place please let me know

                                            #1072470
                                            Shit Robot
                                            Participant

                                              Quote “start doing smack” Quote You Serious?:you_crazy:you_crazy

                                              #1072458
                                              Raj
                                              Participant
                                                Roly wrote:
                                                am now qualified(is that a word?) have done it!! now i need to get waseted (is that another word?). thank you people had bit of a head trauma there, i needed to sound off. you know how it is. where is the best place to go? it needs 3 critera: 1 its gotta be really friendly cos i’m gonna be on my own,2, randomness is encourged, 3, is gotta play some kick ass tunes. if u know of such a place please let me know

                                                i am glad you are qualified mate

                                                well done :horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay::horay:

                                                cant help you with local parties but i hope you find something
                                                :bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl

                                                #1072451
                                                missMushed
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                                                  stay positive and remember that the only way you can feel happy is by letting yourself be happy. The best book ever for this is the little book of happiness (IMO) it helped put things into a simple perspective for me, and in times of woe a quick read perks me up again! http://www.amazon.com/Little-Book-Happiness-Patrick-Whiteside/dp/0740710311

                                                  have a read, and hope it helps xxx

                                                  #1072455
                                                  quietRIOT
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                                                    Roly wrote:
                                                    i have a problem
                                                    when i’m out having a good time, i keep fucking it up by worrying about THE smallest things. Name it i worry about it at the very time i’m supposed to be de-stressing i keep doing my own head in. from the way i look, to i didn’t get that camera develoved from last year! you know, pathetic things that normally wouldnt bother you for years but i always pull the line ‘i’m gonna sit down for awhile’ while all my mates are having a awsome time i sit down and end up stressing about it!its been going on for years, how can i fix it PLEASE!! i’m reaching out here, give me the benefit of your knowledge, i just cant chill!! so now i’m gonna worry about this post now

                                                    :laugh_at: :crazy_dru

                                                    #1072450
                                                    globalloon
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                                                      april wrote:
                                                      :laugh_at: :crazy_dru

                                                      what’s funny?

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