@Tank Girl 540112 wrote:

40 is the new 20 baby 😉

seriously, age is a concept – I may be 36 but was asked for ID for fags this week – without any help from botox :weee: however saying that I’m totally happy and accepting of my age :love:

now thinking wise: in my opinion – if you try to flip a negative into a positive you are often setting your self up to fail,

as life is not all happy clappy rose tinted glasses,

therefore you have to make a realistic judgement of the situation, (not a negative one – which can be our first assessment) …..take a breath and a step back (disengage with it a little emotionally in order to do this) and then you will have a fairer assessment – often it is to do with your own automatic thoughts that get in the way (the way we learn to think – due to past experiences, culture, religion, social situation etc etc – and usually negative – as its unusual for us to have to challenge positive thoughts ) which arent necessarily helpful, it takes time but its a more helpful way of thinking – either that or use mindfulness, much healthier IMO

Lol 🙂 woo ! I can throw that brochure away I had for you then 😉 25% off! Lol, that’s great! A lot of people aren’t and that’s their down fall.

Yeah that makes a hell of a lot of sense than what I was thinking to be honest, I will try and implement it with my life when the situations arise 🙂 easier said than done, but at least I now know a better way of dealing with it, or a more realistic emotionally detached way 🙂