Sexual question for the ladies (Advice Needed)

[yay_area88]

Hey so here's the story.

Im 22 and my girlfriends 19. Weve been dating for about 3 months now, and we're still advancing our way around the bases. Basically, It took a while even to get her pants off, but shes a good girl and definitely worth the way. So I'll be fingering her or goin down on her, and she will really seem to be enjoying it, then all of a sudden she pulls me back up to her and tells me she can't take it anymore. She seems to shy away right before she gets there, assuming she even can get an orgasm

I guess my question is why does she shy away like this in the middle of getting pleasured? I asked her about it and she said she doesnt want to talk about it. Weird right? I'm thinkin maybe she squirts or something, I dont know.

Serious answers only please, no stupid douchebag remarks.
Thanks

[joshd96320]

she might have had a bad experience at a different age... try and ease into to talking to her about it, let her know you are there for her and she can tell u anything, she is your girlfriend after all :)

[p0ly]

maybe ur so intense she dont need to orgasm. fuck knows mate!? you need to ask her yourself

[Tank Girl]

fuck knows mate!? you need to ask her yourself
defo - how can anyone other than her answer this specific question?
If as you say she's worth the wait - be patient and gentle in your questioning - she'll either trust you enough to answer or wont and then you need to decide what to do...
also have you openly discussed contraception etc? as she may be woried of getting pregnant if she's a 'good girl / or just shy and inexperienced'..

:group_hug

[General Lighting]

I think the big problem is the girl has refused already to discuss the issue - and its not the 1950s any more even for America - people are usually completely open about discussing sexual matters these days

I can think of two possibles..

one is that she is originally form a religious/conservative family and has been taught somehow that sex or even orgasm before marriage is "dirty/sinful" and her guilt overrides any desire for pleasure - another bleaker scenario is that she has suffered some form of sexual abuse in the past and the memories keep coming back

even bleaker is that both might be the case...

no easy answers here if she won't talk - and when/if she does the truth may be painful - hopefully its just shyness or religious guilt which can easily be overcome - but you may even both have to consider making a statement to law enforcement, perhaps against a former friend or even family member of hers - but if you really love one another you will be prepared to do this.