Death or Love

[blueline]

dear friend,

i want to tell you my story, which make me feel like i don't want to live anymore. i can't describe my feelings, any way here is my story...

i'm in love with very sweet girl, her name is katrina. i'm in relationship with her more than six months, but she's lived with me for two months. anyway we started our relationship good. we love each other and everything was good but something disturbed me. its her ex boyfriend, she told me he was good in bed and in her mind it was perfect. she love him until death. anyway everything happened between me and her. i compare this story with her ex and for the last 2 week she's started to be very cold in bed. always don't want but sometime we have sex but it's because she pity me.

i feel so bad. she's the most important person in my life and i love her until death but she's not attracted to me.

i want to be better than her ex, i want her to love me and to like me as a man. not because i'm good she pity me and i want her to forget her ex.

i want myself to forget her ex, i even dream about him. i have no wish to live anymore.

my life has stopped. all i think about now is her!

please help me! any advice please...

[Angel]

I can only speak for myself and what I'm going through now..

I was living with the same man for 20 years and have 3 kids with him.. He will always have a place in my heart, but it's not love, I care for him and want to see him happy and he want the same for me.

I have met this new guy who means more to me than anybody I have ever met before, he make me feel loved, could never compare him to my ex, but in some situations if I get hurt I do, :hopeless: like he does compare me to other girlfriends he have had, but this new guy is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, he's my soul mate, he's the one I have been dreaming about all of my life, but never thought was out there, and he feels the same way about me..

We have been alone for a while , both of us, and are both ready for a new relationship, sounds to me like your girlfriend isn't, I don't know how long it is since she broke up with her ex, but I think she should have waited and gotten him out of her system.

I know that what I'm going to say isn't nice, but she just don't seems to have been ready for a new relationship when you both met, she really don't sound like the right girl for you if she makes you feel like this, you have to think very hard if it's worth feeling like you do now for the rest of your life, like the second best..
I don't think you are second best,I think you are perfect for the right girl, but she just weren't ready for a new man in her life, and you are the one getting hurt now..

You can't force anybody to love you if they don't and why would you?

There are plenty of sweet girls out there who are more than ready for a serious relationship and for loving you for who you are..

Can't really offer you any help to get her to love you, it's just not possible, and again why do you want that, love is being with a person who will let you be you, not try to make you be the way they want you to be, it's not real love then..

Instead of you going around feeling so bad you should go, then you should take a break to be ready for a new girl, stop looking for one, that sometimes works better than searching for her, she will be there one day :wink:

Sorry for the long answer and the negative ending, but you are the most important person in your life and you should take care of yourself first..


:group_hug

[McNinja]

Sex For Dummies (http://www.dummies.com/store/product/Sex-For-Dummies-3rd-Edition.productCd-047004523X.html)

Not being a jackass, I've read it myself, and it's pretty helpful, although you probably need to talk this over with your other half, ask her what she wishes would happen in the bedroom maybe?