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YVB

30-01-2009, 10:40 PM

Hi All

please can i have your opinion? am i a freak? should i just give up?

Im male, aged 22, slim body.

Firstly i am straight, i know that for a fact, shame really coz im 90% sure i am never going to find a woman who likes me for me.

dont get me wrong, i love being a man but im a submissive person, i like playing the girl in private (having my hair stroked, hugged, held etc).

I love being the man i really do but i also like playing the girl! I like girly clothes too! i dont mean mini skirts or shoe's or fake boobs etc i mean girly pj's, brief panties... only in private! i dont know why i do i just do.

i love shopping! i really do but i need a female friend to go with coz its no fun otherwise also to buy the things i want, im scared to buy pj's!

i dont have any friends i can talk to about this they just wouldnt understand which is exactly the state im in, i dont understand!

finding it hard to write this, i dont know how to write what i feel!!

my perfect evening would be, film, chocolate, bit of alcohol, sweets, Sofa & duvet and someone to lean on :), hold hands etc.

anyway i need people opinions, this is driving me crazy, everyone around me has someone and i have no one, should i just give up and f off?

Dr Bunsen

30-01-2009, 10:47 PM

Find happyness and contentment in who you are and the rest will follow...

SingularLattice

30-01-2009, 11:11 PM

Don't worry mate, everybody likes to feel comfortable in private. Nothing even slightly unusual about that, it's just weird how some guys hide it. My girl does my manicure for me! Don't let your ideas about what you *think* girls want bother you. Most girls I know find guys who are "men" 24-7 offputting.

YVB

30-01-2009, 11:16 PM

thanx for the repy.

been trying to decide what i want, not in the long term but right now. All i really want is a friend to talk to and be myself with. would be easier if it was a girl because i bond easier with them. i want a friend lol!

doesnt make it easier that i have lots of friends, none of them i can talk to tho!

binge

31-01-2009, 02:00 PM

First of all you should get freeview and start watching Sexcetera on UK Living (or something)- and you'll soon realise that there's a whole world of wierd and wonderful fetishes out there. (And also that those guys have the greatest job in the world!).

Then you should realise that unless you do whatever makes you happy you'll be miserable. Go look around the internet- there's plenty of interesting sites where you can meet like minded people.

Just a quick google search turned up this interesting article:

Conservative men in dresses (http://jenellerose.com/htmlpostings/conservative_men.htm)

Most [cross-dressers] are ordinary men who have discovered a feminine aspect to their personalities, and desire to transcend the narrow stereotypes mandated by conventional society. Happy in their masculinity, they have simply discovered a feminine gender " gift" and decided to explore it ... There is within each man a set of personality potentials that are part of his birthright, but that society labels as "feminine" and says he should suppress. Cross dressers have made contact with these potentials and found their _expression fulfilling. Integrating these into their whole personalities, cross dressers are able to smooth off some of the macho rough edges programmed by their upbringing. The result is a healthier whole person.

The UK is useless when it comes to being open about different aspects of the sexual experience- it's probably the only time I'd say we can learn something from the Americans!

And I wouldn't worry about not having someone yet. I'm straight and not into wearing womens clothes but am still lonely as hell!

Hope this helps a bit.

MisterDuck

31-01-2009, 03:43 PM

theres nothing unusual at all going on here, dont worry - its just the stereotypes of male and female that make people think there is a black and white distinction, its a very outdated thing... i mean, i like back rubs, hugs etc. i never even thought about it, if some people said "thats girly" i would say "stop being pathetic, and so what anyway?"

barnzy001

31-01-2009, 05:56 PM

i would say be who you want to and do what you want because those who care dont matter and those who matter dont care
barnzy

Tank Girl

31-01-2009, 08:52 PM

Find happyness and contentment in who you are and the rest will follow...

First of all you should get freeview and start watching Sexcetera on UK Living (or something)- and you'll soon realise that there's a whole world of wierd and wonderful fetishes out there. (And also that those guys have the greatest job in the world!).

Then you should realise that unless you do whatever makes you happy you'll be miserable. Go look around the internet- there's plenty of interesting sites where you can meet like minded people.

ditto :group_hug

GrassChopper

01-02-2009, 04:40 PM

It seems PV'ers can be understanding sometimes :love:

pre-s-ton

01-02-2009, 09:23 PM

And I wouldn't worry about not having someone yet. I'm straight and not into wearing womens clothes but am still lonely as hell!
seconded

YVB

01-02-2009, 09:38 PM

Tank Girl

01-02-2009, 09:41 PM

Thanx everyone!

since i've been trying to / starting to accept this i have been alot happier, spent over an hour and half in the bath today!! WTF! lol, i enjoyed it tho.

thanks for all your kind words! i'll try and pop back with updates if there are any.

cya
look after yourself and have fun!!

keep us posted, there is always someone here to talk to if you need it :group_hug

binge

02-02-2009, 08:02 PM

gwash85

12-03-2009, 05:52 PM

i would say be who you want to and do what you want because those who care dont matter and those who matter dont care
barnzy

this is such great advice... don't care about other people, just be who you are.