Going Out With Someone Who Doesn't Take Drugs

[djprocess]

just met this really sound girl from work who's really nice but doesnt cain it at all, Her mates do a bit, but im pretty sure its no where near the extent that me and my mates do... do you reckon it can work? you never know it might stop me wanting to cain it so much as well....

[spangle]

I have done before and either they've started wanting to try drugs n that because of me which made me feel really bad, or they've wanted me to stop which has caused problems...it's good coz it gives u a reason to cut down but if u cant work out a comprimise it can be difficult to make work as girls that dont do rugs dont tend to appreciate u goin n gettin mashed wit ur mates!

[General Lighting]

maybe, but she will almost invariably try to change your lifestyle (but if you want to change anyway its not so bad).

But even "party/raver girls" often do that anyway as soon as they meet a bloke they think is stable enough - a lot in their early to mid 20s "grow up" and don't want as much to do with the drugs/more risky behaviour (I think its to do with hormones and biological programming / instrincts to become a mother, even if they don't actually want kids)

if she still has "friends" who take drugs it might be a positive, but remember that girls' ideas of "friendships" are often different to that of blokes :wink:

also given where you work, tread carefully. some Departments actually have rules about "office romances" and both of you will be subjected to greater scrutiny when (not if) someone finds out.

[djprocess]

its good cause she seems to have quite a bit going on in her life, which means were not going to be with each other 24/7 like my last relationship, which means she's got space to go and do what she wants and ive got time to go out and party and to recover. No harm in giving it a go. Think they are quite lax about the whole office romance thing as there is already 4 mangers that are in couples here... im not up for changin my lifestyle completely, but one weekend off here and there wouldnt really hurt that much, might even do me some good. Trouble is i always think im missing out on all the fun if i stay in...

[MrAHC]

drugs aint everything, a girl i realy realy like dont take anything and drinks very little.

beleve it or not i'm not a big drug taker usualy, though i drink alot when i drink.

[Sini]

I don't see why it won't work.
Aslong as she doesn't try and change you completley then i'd give it a go.
:bounce_fl
Get in there Process :wink:

[djprocess]

drugs aint everything, a girl i realy realy like dont take anything and drinks very little.

beleve it or not i'm not a big drug taker usualy, though i drink alot when i drink.

its not really the drugs im bothered about stopping i just want to keep going to partys, were obviously i will probably get wrecked. but then again partys aint everything either. i do quite like them tho. also my mates are complete and utter wreckheads and id be a bit hesitant to introduce her if they were going to get on one (pretty much everytime i see them!) as i think it might scare her a bit or give her the wrong impression. cause theres a big difference between her friends necking a pill or smoking a bit of weed here and there to a 7day 24/7 mash up at a festival or party were pretty much anything goes. dont want to freighten her off!

[rachus]

i know where your coming from! i found in my case i knew it was only going to be abit of fun because of the complete opposite lifestyles but we had fun together anyway and we both knew the scores.

it doesnt matter if the guy takes drugs and the girl doesnt or vice versa its really differcult but it can be done, it all depends where u see it going.
my advice -just enjoy it for what its worth now and see how it goes, u cant promise each other or yourself anything yet.

[MrAHC]

i. dont want to freighten her off!think i scare girls

[General Lighting]

I think its maybe more that especially as you get older the girls/women you meet actually want a bloke what conforms to most of societies demands - even if they themselves were once a bit rebellious, as they are looking for commitment/stability as well as financial resources.

Unfortunately relationships these days are often seen as business contracts as much as "love" and its also a modernised version of animal/nesting instincts.

behaviour like drugs/alcohol usage and partying is seen as risky behaviour and goes against these instincts - the "jack the lad" type bloke in seen as OK for a quick fling but not long term, for that they want the "boring" type of man..

And OK this might come across as a bit "sexist" but I know a lot of girls want both which leads to a fair bit of infidelity, jealousy, and even domestic violence - and people of both genders never being satisfied in their relationships....

I've noticed with very few exceptions (literally about 3 couples amongst a circle of friends of hundreds across two regions) the "relationships" formed on the party scene are often very short lived, and if they do survive people often end up giving up partying or at least scaling it down...

I reckon I could easily get into a relationship if I stopped partying completely and went back into such things like studying and even going to church regularly as thats actually what 90% of the girls/women I meet outside the rave scene are into - but I'm too stubborn to cave in like that..

I really feel that conventional morality is coming back to this nation with a vengeance..

[MrAHC]

I think its maybe more that especially as you get older the girls/women you meet actually want a bloke what conforms to most of societies demands - even if they themselves were once a bit rebellious, as they are looking for commitment/stability as well as financial resources.

Unfortunately relationships these days are often seen as business contracts as much as "love" and its also a modernised version of animal/nesting instincts.

behaviour like drugs/alcohol usage and partying is seen as risky behaviour and goes against these instincts - the "jack the lad" type bloke in seen as OK for a quick fling but not long term, for that they want the "boring" type of man..

And OK this might come across as a bit "sexist" but I know a lot of girls want both which leads to a fair bit of infidelity, jealousy, and even domestic violence - and people of both genders never being satisfied in their relationships....

I've noticed with very few exceptions (literally about 3 couples amongst a circle of friends of hundreds across two regions) the "relationships" formed on the party scene are often very short lived, and if they do survive people often end up giving up partying or at least scaling it down...

I reckon I could easily get into a relationship if I stopped partying completely and went back into such things like studying and even going to church regularly as thats actually what 90% of the girls/women I meet outside the rave scene are into - but I'm too stubborn to cave in like that..

I really feel that conventional morality is coming back to this nation with a vengeance..
i recon your right with that mate. women actualy want boring men with lots of money.

i aint got a chance realy....

[Sini]

i recon your right with that mate. women actualy want boring men with lots of money.

i aint got a chance realy....

i don't want boring men at all, that's just....boring :wink:

[rachus]

thats absolute rubbish! maybe im not the 'majority' and im not at that age to think like that but i never see myself thinking like that EVER.
I know couples in there 30s with 6 yr old daughters still going out to festivals and getting battered and having a good time, and even friends now who have parents who go out and party like we do, it gives me total faith knowing that finding a partner and having kids doesnt mean u have to give up ur lifestyle and personality.

..but for now! im just happy doing what i have to do ! :)

[General Lighting]

thats absolute rubbish! maybe im not the 'majority' and im not at that age to think like that but i never see myself thinking like that EVER.
I know couples in there 30s with 6 yr old daughters still going out to festivals and getting battered and having a good time, and even friends now who have parents who go out and party like we do, it gives me total faith knowing that finding a partner and having kids doesnt mean u have to give up ur lifestyle and personality.

..but for now! im just happy doing what i have to do ! :)

sorry but you (and even these couples) are definitely not the majority -

the harsh reality is that especially when the kids get to their pre teens or teenage years the pressures of raising them either split the couple or make them give up partying altogether, unless they are a proper full on hippy couple and even then they are under a lot of strain...

one of my mates from Reading nearly lost custody of his son because his ex told social services about him going to raves and being involved in them..

and even for couples what stay together the big danger point is when the kids reach 10-14 and they want to do drugs, its hard for even a liberal parent to stop them and yet most don't really want their kids doing drugs as early as 10-11 - at that point often the mother changes her views and becomes a lot more conservative.

Even my own parents did this (when they first came to England and lived in SE London they lived and partied with hippies), and my dad was once a proper caner.

Looking back on it its clear that my dad sacrificed his fun to keep the marriage and family together and although it made him a bit bitter (he only realised the reality of this the week before he died) in the long term I'm glad he did so and he did the right thing.

[General Lighting]

i recon your right with that mate. women actualy want boring men with lots of money.

i aint got a chance realy....

maybe you've probably got a chance to be someones "bit on the side" short term but not long term commitment

its more complicated as women and men get "emotional maturity" at very different ages

most women mature by their early to mid 20s

blokes actually don't until their mid 30s

[rachus]

Totally, i think there are tons of sacrifies you have to make for your kids, i was talking about it to my mum last night and she admitted she lost her personality,she just lived for me and my bro. Im not a parent and i cant imagine what thats like, parenthood is very unappealing to me mfor now but when the time comes im guna have to re-address my situation and lifestyle. its a scary thought.

[General Lighting]

Totally, i think there are tons of sacrifies you have to make for your kids, i was talking about it to my mum last night and she admitted she lost her personality,she just lived for me and my bro. Im not a parent and i cant imagine what thats like, parenthood is very unappealing to me mfor now but when the time comes im guna have to re-address my situation and lifestyle. its a scary thought.

the personality change is part of all female mammals and it is the strongest instinct, you must have seen news reports from animal rescue centres where a female cat or dog often adopts the young of what would normally be a prey species (rodents and poultry in particular) and raises it with her young....

of course more and more women do not actually want children until a later age but the "nest building" instincts are still there, for some they deal with these by putting a lot of effort into their careers or interests or wanting a stable and secure relationship rather than "serial monogamy" (a PC term for what normally gets girls labelled as a "sket" - especially as old gender roles and stereotypes are unfortunately returning....

there is actually a ton of sexual tension on todays free party scene too - for instance at Norfolk parties although people don't get robbed etc if it kicks of it is invariably due to arguments over a girl, no better than the litten tree etc and its now a male-dominated scene with a lot of testosterone which puts off many girls/women from attending when they "grow up"...

[Playground Politics]

i suggest getting a mutual hobbie,. like horse riding!

[MrAHC]

sini & rachus you two arnt in mine or GL age group were on about girls of like 25+

[DJCliffy]

Go for it Process!! If she likes you then she'll take you just the way you are! Hope it works out for you brudda! :love:

[starlaugh]

It can work, but be prepared for the whole

" I am not impressed " comments and sulking sometimes, you might as well give it a go... where is the harm in trying?

Worked in the past but that was at a time I decided that I wanted to calm down. I know of other people in relationships where one does take stuff and the other doesn't... (usually the bloke does and the girl doesn't)

[djprocess]

Go for it Process!! If she likes you then she'll take you just the way you are! Hope it works out for you brudda! :love:
cheers mate.

@SL ive had the whole 'im not impressed' routine from my previous g/f and she canned it as well:you_crazy

[rach]

remember, a comedown is always easier when you've got a boyfriend/girlfriend coming down too...!

[ellie]

remember, a comedown is always easier when you've got a boyfriend/girlfriend coming down too...!


ha ha ha, not one who is tutting at you and saying 'i told you so'....or is it? i am simply guessing as i have not experienced a 'single comedown'

[General Lighting]

remember, a comedown is always easier when you've got a boyfriend/girlfriend coming down too...!

not with many of the people I know, they often start arguing

and if Sunday doesn't get them they are properly at each other on midweek, back in Reading I even heard some of them having their names mentioned on the scanner because the fighting had got so bad (houses being smashed up, peoples parents being attacked etc) the feds had got involved!

I know loads of couples who have either given up drugs or split up (or both) because of this...

[rach]

not with many of the people I know, they often start arguing

and if Sunday doesn't get them they are properly at each other on midweek, even heard some of them even on scanner because the fighting had got so bad (houses being smashed up, peoples parents being attacked etc) the feds had got involved!

I know loads of couples who have either given up drugs or split up (or both) because of this...


me and my other half do quite good, being doing it for 9 months now, we just buy each other junk food and ciggies and lock ourselves in a dark room for two days with continuous family guy...

luckily i found someone whose a bigger party animal than me!

i could give up drugs for someone... but i could never give up free parties!

[General Lighting]

me and my other half do quite good, being doing it for 9 months now, we just buy each other junk food and ciggies and lock ourselves in a dark room for two days with continuous family guy...

luckily i found someone whose a bigger party animal than me!

i could give up drugs for someone... but i could never give up free parties!

I do know one couple like this but it went to the other extreme, they both trashed their health totally..

the good news is AFAIK they are still together and probably will be to the point they have a shared room in the old folks care home

the bad news is the way they are going they will probably need that room when they are only in their mid 40s...

[starlaugh]

me and my other half do quite good, being doing it for 9 months now, we just buy each other junk food and ciggies and lock ourselves in a dark room for two days with continuous family guy...

luckily i found someone whose a bigger party animal than me!

i could give up drugs for someone... but i could never give up free parties!

Not surprised you two do ok... he's really funny, had never met him properly before. However I don't remember him having that crazy hair cut!! raaa

[ellie]

me and my other half do quite good, being doing it for 9 months now, we just buy each other junk food and ciggies and lock ourselves in a dark room for two days with continuous family guy...

luckily i found someone whose a bigger party animal than me!

i could give up drugs for someone... but i could never give up free parties!


i'm confused...do you and your other half both take drugs??

i think the problem here is that one does and one doesn't.

I think if she doesn't have any problems with drug taking then it should be fine - whether she takes or not - but could be tricky if she 'doesn't agree'.

[rach]

Not surprised you two do ok... he's really funny, had never met him properly before. However I don't remember him having that crazy hair cut!! raaa


hahah yeh hes a nutter you should have seen the dreads when they were turquoise!

[starlaugh]

hahah yeh hes a nutter you should have seen the dreads when they were turquoise!

REALLY!! haha I would have loved to seen that, it reminds me of a jesters hat :weee:

[Playground Politics]

remember, a comedown is always easier when you've got a boyfriend/girlfriend coming down too...!

yeah i reacon even just having ppl in ur company is alot easier when coming down, when i have a bad come down and im on my own i normally go insane and end up hugging a teddy bear and cry lots

[General Lighting]

yeah i reacon even just having ppl in ur company is alot easier when coming down, when i have a bad come down and im on my own i normally go insane and end up hugging a teddy bear and cry lots

hmm - not 100% sure about this as you often start wondering if people are "really your friends" and all that sort of stuff.

I don't do drugs to the point of getting bad comedowns any more but preferred it on my own - could always go online or read a book, or a few years ago I would just turn on the scanner and after a few hours of listening you'd realise that there were people in far worse situations than you (either victims or perpetrators of crime) and in the bigger picture your own temporary self-inflicted psychological problem was nothing to cry about..

[redneck]

yep, come downs on your own really suck.
i had a couple of great partners back in the day and had some wicked times with both of 'em.

i'm suddenly feeling really old and sensible.
I very rarely go out and if i do i generally end up getting home on my own, wondering wtf is going on, whats that buzzing in my ears, can't relax, need a hug, need a shag, need someone to gibber at.......
:cry:

[Playground Politics]

hmm - not 100% sure about this as you often start wondering if people are "really your friends" and all that sort of stuff.

I don't do drugs to the point of getting bad comedowns any more but preferred it on my own - could always go online or read a book, or a few years ago I would just turn on the scanner and after a few hours of listening you'd realise that there were people in far worse situations than you (either victims or perpetrators of crime) and in the bigger picture your own temporary self-inflicted psychological problem was nothing to cry about..

no if im around ppl(on a comedown, and off) im 100 percent sure that they are my friends, its when im on my own when i start questioning everything and anything, altho in the coupla months ive been getting so paranoid about friends, and i absolutly hate being unsure about the one thing that is most important to me..friends!

[General Lighting]

no if im around ppl(on a comedown, and off) im 100 percent sure that they are my friends, its when im on my own when i start questioning everything and anything, altho in the coupla months ive been getting so paranoid about friends, and i absolutly hate being unsure about the one thing that is most important to me..friends!

maybe its because I sense all the hidden tension amongst groups of people (it is hard to explain, it is like the "extra" sense even some pets have - if they are in a room where people are always on edge and arguing, or even where there is a bad atmosphere, they will try to get out - it must be some sort of "survival" instinct)

its usually at the comedown time this tension comes through...

[ellie]

when i have a bad come down and im on my own i normally go insane and end up hugging a teddy bear and cry lots

the one time i had a bad comedown i also did that...god thats a depressing and sad memory!!!

i've never had to come home from a night out without my b/f but i can imagine how that could be tough, i'm in a distance relationship and i imagine the midweek blues would probably be better if i was with him.

[Playground Politics]

the one time i had a bad comedown i also did that...god thats a depressing and sad memory!!!

i've never had to come home from a night out without my b/f but i can imagine how that could be tough, i'm in a distance relationship and i imagine the midweek blues would probably be better if i was with him.

it was less of a teddy bear and more of my mum, but i would never blame anything else but the drugs and stupid me for getting in that bad of a comedown in the first place

[Playground Politics]

altho i can understand how much better it woulda been if i had had someone who coulda understood the idea of a comedown be crying nxt to

[ellie]

it was less of a teddy bear and more of my mum, but i would never blame anything else but the drugs and stupid me for getting in that bad of a comedown in the first place

tis true - it was my first comedown and a good lesson learnt..."what goes up must come down!" and "the higher you go the harder you fall" come to mind :laugh_at:

[djprocess]

i'm confused...do you and your other half both take drugs??

i think the problem here is that one does and one doesn't.

I think if she doesn't have any problems with drug taking then it should be fine - whether she takes or not - but could be tricky if she 'doesn't agree'.
she says she hasnt got a problem with drugs cause some of her freinds do, but im pretty sure her mates dont cain it anywhere near as hard as my mates do. i reckon it'd scare me seeing me and my mates if i didnt take drugs or know them, Actually it did scare one of my mates who does take drugs! Id given her a lift to sunrise and she decided to leave before i could give her a lift back cause we were being such retards. i didnt think we were that bad personally.:wink:

[rachus]

i enjoy comedowns with mates, i hate when everyone goes home and suddenly your alone. its awful.
I could imagine having a partner to comedown with would be ideal, but hey-ho, i still like to know i can get myself thru a comedown alone.. doesnt happen often tho!

[MrAHC]

i enjoy comedowns with mates, i hate when everyone goes home and suddenly your alone. its awful.
I could imagine having a partner to comedown with would be ideal, but hey-ho, i still like to know i can get myself thru a comedown alone.. doesnt happen often tho!
you single :wink:

[ellie]

you single :wink:


smoooooooooooooooottttttthhhhhhhhhhhh

[DJCliffy]

i enjoy comedowns with mates, i hate when everyone goes home and suddenly your alone. its awful.
I could imagine having a partner to comedown with would be ideal, but hey-ho, i still like to know i can get myself thru a comedown alone.. doesnt happen often tho!

Oh god yeah. I'm with you Rach, That's one thing i hate when your buzzing your tits off, then people go home just when the nights getting good. I'm always the last one who's awake and it does my nut in when you have no one to enjoy the buzz with! Doesn't help that i'm single and most of my mates have partners! :hopeless::wink:

[Tommunism]

I live with my gf of about 2 years, we are very different people. She's completely straight, won't touch a thing. We have a kind of have a "i don't wanna know about it" understanding. I know she hates it so i just don't do it around her, but i'm not a complete fiend so it's usually alright. The thing is she knew what i was like before we got together and she knows it would be wrong to try change me. It's not easy but most of the times it works... as long as you're honest, upfront and don't go crazy in her face it should be alright.

[Apocolipstick]

Right now I'm in a relationship with someone who doesn't use any form of drugs. I go out with my mates and we cane all sorts, but when I'm with the BF, I don't take anything, but it doesn't make my nights out with him any less fun, it's just a different vibe. I've always been pretty open and honest about my weekend activities with him, but I don't bore him to death with the details, or go on about it at length, cuz it's just not his thing. We've managed like this for 4 years now and it's fine. But then I'm lucky as we are both laid back and donlt get too involved or caught up in what the other one is doing when we're not around. It's what we do when we're together that counts.


Regarding the whole relationship stuff, I hate to be the one who's going to come across being all "girly" about this but the way I see it is that growing up and having kids, and stopping the partying, curbing the caning etc is all just part of growing up and moving on. If you're not ready to give up you hectic social life then you're not ready to have kids. I'm not speaking down to those who love partying but if you're not willing to sacrifice you're current lifestyle then your only going to end up resenting your kids. I think this is where a lot of couples have trouble, as I think women generally realise this as they mature and feel more responisbility men just see it as them trying to restrict them,because they've not reached the same place in their lives at the same time. I know I'm generalising here and there will be exceptions.


My philosophy is that I'm enjoying partying and experimenting still at the moment but as and when I want to get married and have kids I'm going to enjoy that way of life too. Seriously.. what's the point in that stuff if you feel its just "in the way" of what you really want to be doing. You'd be better off just staying single and enjoying yourself than inflicting a stressfull relationship on 2 people who want different things.

Final Thought: Who will be happier in 20 years time. Someone who had a wild youth and experienced things, but settled down to raise a family with someone they loved, or someone who has spent the last 20 years trying to relive the party years, who's driven every potential partner away whenever they've tried to tame them? I'd rather stop the partying on my own terms than hang around till the very end and stop cuz everyone else is happily married.

[quietRIOT]

imo....if she dont do drugs and you cane it all the time or go party all the time ...if i was her i wouldnt bother about you....its a pretty big put off...then again ..you might get to like her and realise that life is not all one big party session every wknd and you can get the same feelings from doing other things...!:bounce_fl

see to me going out every wknd to every party would a.)fuk me up...(an i ve got kids so couldnt anyway) an b.) it would become So same same...:crazy_dru
but honestly i wouldnt want a guy to be out every wknd getting caned...more to life.................MUCH MORE
CHOOSE LIFE !

[rachus]

smoooooooooooooooottttttthhhhhhhhhhhh
haha! that post was months ago but iv only just seenn it!

very to the point MrAHC! and yes i am, im best that way :)

[xpillpopper]

just met this really sound girl from work who's really nice but doesnt cain it at all, Her mates do a bit, but im pretty sure its no where near the extent that me and my mates do... do you reckon it can work? you never know it might stop me wanting to cain it so much as well....

every girl ive gone out with that didnt do drugs before, i have convinced to do drugs with my powers of persuasion and cunning abilities... never cain tho... only e pills, which is way easier because they look cool! who can say no to a pill that looks so friendly?! blue martians! WHO CAN SAY NO!???!!!!:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy :you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy :you_crazy

[twirlygirl]

My bf doesn't do em these days but is fine with me going out raving with my mates. Spose he just knows that I won't go too far to do anything majorly stupid.
I think if I had a different partner who had never taken anything it would be a problem as he might have the misconception that i'd be completely out of control on them, and I couldn't stand being 'looked down upon' for it!

I reckon you have a good chance of it working tho as she already has mates who do em, so she'd know you weren't gonna turn into a lunatic or whatever the general public think we are like!

[MrAHC]

my birds only a couple of steps from a crack whore so i'll not comment.

[Tank Girl]

Right now I'm in a relationship with someone who doesn't use any form of drugs. I go out with my mates and we cane all sorts, but when I'm with the BF, I don't take anything, but it doesn't make my nights out with him any less fun, it's just a different vibe. I've always been pretty open and honest about my weekend activities with him, but I don't bore him to death with the details, or go on about it at length, cuz it's just not his thing. We've managed like this for 4 years now and it's fine. But then I'm lucky as we are both laid back and donlt get too involved or caught up in what the other one is doing when we're not around. It's what we do when we're together that counts.


Regarding the whole relationship stuff, I hate to be the one who's going to come across being all "girly" about this but the way I see it is that growing up and having kids, and stopping the partying, curbing the caning etc is all just part of growing up and moving on. If you're not ready to give up you hectic social life then you're not ready to have kids. I'm not speaking down to those who love partying but if you're not willing to sacrifice you're current lifestyle then your only going to end up resenting your kids. I think this is where a lot of couples have trouble, as I think women generally realise this as they mature and feel more responisbility men just see it as them trying to restrict them,because they've not reached the same place in their lives at the same time. I know I'm generalising here and there will be exceptions.


My philosophy is that I'm enjoying partying and experimenting still at the moment but as and when I want to get married and have kids I'm going to enjoy that way of life too. Seriously.. what's the point in that stuff if you feel its just "in the way" of what you really want to be doing. You'd be better off just staying single and enjoying yourself than inflicting a stressfull relationship on 2 people who want different things.

Final Thought: Who will be happier in 20 years time. Someone who had a wild youth and experienced things, but settled down to raise a family with someone they loved, or someone who has spent the last 20 years trying to relive the party years, who's driven every potential partner away whenever they've tried to tame them? I'd rather stop the partying on my own terms than hang around till the very end and stop cuz everyone else is happily married.

wise words and quite similar to my relationship,

he likes to party and have fun - we go to house partys / pubs / gig's / festies etc together -

but I can go off for a few days and have some fun and he's not fussed,
(he's a punk rocker at heart and doesnt really like alot of 'dance' music or the 'scene' - but he also did it all years ago with the 'indie music scene' when he was squatting in london and has just 'grown out of it' )

Compaired to my 'younger days' I am so much calmer, but still have fun in my own way :wink:

it's sometimes a shame he cant share some of it, and meet some of the wonderful people I do - but I respect his decision not to come and he respects my decision to go out

this works for us

[MrAHC]

my birds at the stage where i was 10 years ago and its like talkin to a brick wall.
i still go to partys usualy only the ones i'm involved in but i never take drugs (apart from the odd line of coke or brown) but as we have only been at 5 partys n one festival this year thats not alot.

my lass will get wrecked on whatevers available 7 days a week if she can. this is why its as good as over. i'm not into the logic where the fridge is empty & theres no gass to heat the water but your last tenner will go on a bag of drugs.....

[DaftFader]

my birds at the stage where i was 10 years ago and its like talkin to a brick wall.
i still go to partys usualy only the ones i'm involved in but i never take drugs (apart from the odd line of coke or brown) but as we have only been at 5 partys n one festival this year thats not alot.

my lass will get wrecked on whatevers available 7 days a week if she can. this is why its as good as over. i'm not into the logic where the fridge is empty & theres no gass to heat the water but your last tenner will go on a bag of drugs.....
good for you dude .. shame to hear your gf has taken that route tho:group_hug

[SweetBride202]

She'll eventually want you to stop taking drugs too.

[fitz1985]

a girl for me will share a liquid breakfast with me

[Dom_sufc]

a girl for me will share a liquid breakfast with me

Haha :love:

[uglyprettytrash]

I think it depends on the person. I never liked being too fucked in front of my ex because I wanted to impress him, so kept my partying just for me and my mates. But then again I went to Sanctuary with a guy I was sort of seeing and had a wicked time so it just depends I reckon :)

It did split up me and one guy, but that was purely because he judged all my mates without meeting them. More than once he point blank refused to meet people just because of their illegal frivolities...

As long as she's nothing like that you should be fine!

[123rave]

Ok im new to this and dont really no how this works. But i wanted to start a new topic and wasnt sure how.. but this title seems to fit with it, well kind of..

well basicly i actually love going to parties and having a good stomp and i just wanna find someone who likes doing it aswell all my ex's have like smoked weed and just drink really.but i want someone who wants to go to partys and just get mashed. like i usualy go with friends.. but i fell like a bit excluded now they all seem to have there own partners who theyll just be with all night..

and i usually find myself going off by myself like i do enjoy it but i just want someone to enjoy it with. and i dunno i like to stay to the bitter end of a party and they seem to like get tierd or whatever and wanna go early and coz they usually have no money. so im usually just stay bymyself and find my own way home like i do enjoy it. like meeting new people and that. but i wish there was someone there with me to enjoy it as much as i do if you can understand that? like at the last party i was jsut ridicuslay fucked and couldnt even really thinking about leaving yet so i stayed.. but then i just felt like kinda sad :( coz like i usually go off and u wondere round and see people u no but when ur there by urself its kinda lonely.

sorry this prob sounds stupid and i dunno i just wanted to post this and see if anyone thort the same? or had any opnions on it. like my mum thinks im depressed but im not its just i dunno lonely i guess i just cant sseem to meet anyone whos on my level. o dunno this sounds so stupid.. anyone got opnion or anything??

[littlebubbin]

i don't want boring men at all, that's just....boring :wink:


im gona agree, as nice as it is having money to go out and shit its not the be all and end all.

at the end of the day you need to be with some1 that accepts you for who you are, im not saying you have to be with some1 thats on the same level as you socialy, but as long as she doesnt mind you doing your thing and she can do hers, you spend time together and enjoy it, what else do you need :wink:

[littlebubbin]

Ok im new to this and dont really no how this works. But i wanted to start a new topic and wasnt sure how.. but this title seems to fit with it, well kind of..

well basicly i actually love going to parties and having a good stomp and i just wanna find someone who likes doing it aswell all my ex's have like smoked weed and just drink really.but i want someone who wants to go to partys and just get mashed. like i usualy go with friends.. but i fell like a bit excluded now they all seem to have there own partners who theyll just be with all night..

and i usually find myself going off by myself like i do enjoy it but i just want someone to enjoy it with. and i dunno i like to stay to the bitter end of a party and they seem to like get tierd or whatever and wanna go early and coz they usually have no money. so im usually just stay bymyself and find my own way home like i do enjoy it. like meeting new people and that. but i wish there was someone there with me to enjoy it as much as i do if you can understand that? like at the last party i was jsut ridicuslay fucked and couldnt even really thinking about leaving yet so i stayed.. but then i just felt like kinda sad :( coz like i usually go off and u wondere round and see people u no but when ur there by urself its kinda lonely.

sorry this prob sounds stupid and i dunno i just wanted to post this and see if anyone thort the same? or had any opnions on it. like my mum thinks im depressed but im not its just i dunno lonely i guess i just cant sseem to meet anyone whos on my level. o dunno this sounds so stupid.. anyone got opnion or anything??


you dont need to be in a relationship with soe1 to have a good time, but i can understand what you mean.

maybe go out a couple of nights with just one other mate?