In a dilemma!

[DJCliffy]

I've got a right mission today. Two of my closest friends are in a relationship which i helped set up. Now the girl (ill call her H) i actually used to fancy and me and her used to do everything together for a good while until i introduced her to my best mate (Ill call him D). Now they hit it off and actually asked my permission if they could start seeing each other. naturally i agreed cos seeing her happy meant the world to me. But i said to my mate that he had to swear an oath that he would look after her and wouldn't fuck her about, which he hasn't until now.
found out that he's been txting my cousin but nothing as far as i know happened. Now H found out about it all and is fucking heartbroken cos she proper loves D but says she can't be with a liar as D won't admit it but we all know it's gone on. I've asked D round tonight so i can get the truth out of him but I'm a bit apprehensive cos it's me best mate but so is H and i swore i'd never let anyone hurt her! I would stay out of it but cos we're such a close group of friends, them breaking up badly would proper fuck our lives up! plus it's my cousin that he's been txting. This is a fucking dilemma for me i tell ya:hopeless:

[lilmstrixta]

Did you actually want some advise or were you just venting?, he should tell the truth i don't understand when people get caught out why they lie.

[General Lighting]

see how it goes - remember that however good a friend he may have been, if he will lie to his missus he is also more likely to lie to you in a pressure situation.

when you are involved with things like raves, drugs, where there is a lot of emotional pressure because of the effects of drugs and pressure from outside society (cops, being in trouble with the law etc) you can't afford to be hanging around with people whom you can't trust.

[DJCliffy]

Did you actually want some advise or were you just venting?, he should tell the truth i don't understand when people get caught out why they lie.

Yeah if you got any advice i'd be glad of it! I sort of know how i'm gonna handle it cos he does listen to me so i think it'll be all good. He might lose her if he tells the truth but she told me if he doesn't then that's it. I'm just hoping that if they do split then it ain't gonna be a nasty breakup cos if that happens then it puts me in a position that i well don't wanna be in! :crazy_diz

[lilmstrixta]

Basically he needs to tell her the truth, why lie once you been caught out i know he probs don't wanna loose her but he should of thought of that before he started texting your cousin. And my advice to you is to make sure they both know your not taking sides i know its hard to be impartail but its there issue try not to get dragged in to it all i know they are both close friends and its hard to be there for them both when one is in the wrong but i guess the only thing you can do is try and be a good mate to them both no matter what the outcome.
Well thats my 2 cents lol not nice when stuff like this happens

[DJCliffy]

Basically he needs to tell her the truth, why lie once you been caught out i know he probs don't wanna loose her but he should of thought of that before he started texting your cousin. And my advice to you is to make sure they both know your not taking sides i know its hard to be impartail but its there issue try not to get dragged in to it all i know they are both close friends and its hard to be there for them both when one is in the wrong but i guess the only thing you can do is try and be a good mate to them both no matter what the outcome.
Well thats my 2 cents lol not nice when stuff like this happens

No it's not but hey thats life for ya! Thanks for that tho thats proper good advice.:love: I've got an idea of how to handle it now, fuckin missions tho.:crazy_diz I

[lilmstrixta]

No it's not but hey thats life for ya! Thanks for that tho thats proper good advice.:love: I've got an idea of how to handle it now, fuckin missions tho.:crazy_diz I

I don't envy you

[DJCliffy]

I don't envy you

Innit. Oh well it's better that it's me talking to him, some of our other mates can be a bit nasty so it's probably for the best! ill let you know how it pans out:love:

[DJCliffy]

sweet spoke to my mate and he took everything on board so hopefully it'll be resolved soon! Made me laugh he told me he's more scared of me than he is of his bird! When i txt him earlier saying i needed a word, he says he's been shitting himself the whole day. Nice little ego boost for me!:love:

[MrAHC]

your mate shouldnt of gone for a lass you liked in the first plase. what happened to lads honour?

[lilmstrixta]

your mate shouldnt of gone for a lass you liked in the first plase. what happened to lads honour?

lads honour don't mean fuck all if one of them is getting there end away.

[MrAHC]

lads honour don't mean fuck all if one of them is getting there end away.me n my best mate wouldnt do that.

[Raj]

your mate shouldnt of gone for a lass you liked in the first plase. what happened to lads honour?

Not as common as it used to be sadly - I treasure the mates I have who have lads honour :love:

[DJCliffy]

your mate shouldnt of gone for a lass you liked in the first plase. what happened to lads honour?

Unfortunately i fell into the friend zone with this girl. It did fuck me right off tho when it happened, proper broke my heart an all but at the end of the day her being happy was all that mattered to me so i just bit the bullet and accepted it.

I'm glad it happened cos my mate gets alot of shit from her so (she's proper highly strung!!) in a way it's all worked out for the best! :love:

[lilmstrixta]

Unfortunately i fell into the friend zone with this girl. It did fuck me right off tho when it happened, proper broke my heart an all but at the end of the day her being happy was all that mattered to me so i just bit the bullet and accepted it.

I'm glad it happened cos my mate gets alot of shit from her so (she's proper highly strung!!) in a way it's all worked out for the best! :love:

lucky escape there then lol

[DJCliffy]

see how it goes - remember that however good a friend he may have been, if he will lie to his missus he is also more likely to lie to you in a pressure situation.

when you are involved with things like raves, drugs, where there is a lot of emotional pressure because of the effects of drugs and pressure from outside society (cops, being in trouble with the law etc) you can't afford to be hanging around with people whom you can't trust.

Yeah man, Theres quite a few mates that i don't completely trust but with my immediate group of mates we're all proper close. I'd die for anyone of em and have taken a few beatings protecting em! Gotta look after ur troops innit!:group_hug

[DJCliffy]

lucky escape there then lol

Yeah you know that, Although a few months after it happened ,i went out with her sister whos twice as bad!! Fuckin nuts that was! :laugh_at:

[lilmstrixta]

Yeah you know that, Although a few months after it happened ,i went out with her sister whos twice as bad!! Fuckin nuts that was! :laugh_at:

funny sounds like my fella n his ex he went with her sister after she cheated on him, i dont understand girls, probs the reason most of my mates are lads

[DJCliffy]

i dont understand girls

Damn, i was gonna try and get some inside information from ya! I don't understand em either!!!! lol:love:

[lilmstrixta]

Damn, i was gonna try and get some inside information from ya! I don't understand em either!!!! lol:love:
Haha well they skrew with your head even of your there mate. I don't get the whole girl thing i think its because i come from a family of boys

[DJCliffy]

Haha well they skrew with your head even of your there mate. I don't get the whole girl thing i think its because i come from a family of boys

That'll do it then! Are you the only girl then in ur family other than ur olds?:wink:

[DaftFader]

glad you got it sorted m8 .. sry i wasn't around earlier to give n e advice :wink:

:group_hug

[lilmstrixta]

That'll do it then! Are you the only girl then in ur family other than ur olds?:wink:
well i was with my mum up untill i was 14 and i was the only girl in the family then the care home i was in i was the only girl with 4 other lads, i found my dad this year and now hve a half sister and a step sister and a half bro and a step bro so growing up i was the only girl and all of a sudden i am a big sister to 2 girls lol

[DJCliffy]

well i was with my mum up untill i was 14 and i was the only girl in the family then the care home i was in i was the only girl with 4 other lads, i found my dad this year and now hve a half sister and a step sister and a half bro and a step bro so growing up i was the only girl and all of a sudden i am a big sister to 2 girls lol

Ah nice one, so quite a few siblings then bet the girls'll look up to ya! I've got two younger brothers myself but it' getting to the stage where i need to move out. I'm up for moving to Brighton, I had a wicked time down there this weekend, theres so much to do down there, I gotta find me a new job methinks and get my arse down there methinks!:love:

[lilmstrixta]

Ah nice one, so quite a few siblings then bet the girls'll look up to ya! I've got two younger brothers myself but it' getting to the stage where i need to move out. I'm up for moving to Brighton, I had a wicked time down there this weekend, theres so much to do down there, I gotta find me a new job methinks and get my arse down there methinks!:love:

i seriously doubt that my step mum would want me as a role model for my sister lol i have only met my step bro and sis still to meet the other 2.

[DJCliffy]

i seriously doubt that my step mum would want me as a role model for my sister lol i have only met my step bro and sis still to meet the other 2.

Haha i get that from my family, my younger cousins think i'm a cool raver but the parents (My auntie and an that) think i'm a drugged up nazi who destroys peoples property! I'm what they call the black sheep of the family even tho theres hundreds of us! I kind of like the title tho!raaa

[lilmstrixta]

Haha i get that from my family, my younger cousins think i'm a cool raver but the parents (My auntie and an that) think i'm a drugged up nazi who destroys peoples property! I'm what they call the black sheep of the family even tho theres hundreds of us! I kind of like the title tho!raaa

my dad knows i go to raves i don't think he minds not that he cn really y much he bought me loads of glowsticks for xmas, then when we were don there for christmas my step mum got onto the subject of coke asked me if i have ever tried it and i was like ummm yea, don't see the point in lying

[DJCliffy]

Haha glowsticks for xmas thats fucking quality!! i think being honest bout drugs is the best way. I tell my family of what i do just so they know that if im on pills what to expect. also i explain to em what it all does and how being on pills is much better than being pissed! My family are very straitlaced and all drink, so theres alot of agro specially at family parties. not from me tho i drop a couple of bombs of mandy go to the party with a proper gurn on! Fooking love seeing their expressions when i bowl in chattering. It's cool tho cos i got two of my aunties trying mandy for the first time and they fucking loved it. Wanted to go raving with me as well! I'm gonna take em to one in the summer!:laugh_at:

[lilmstrixta]

I wouldnt do drugs at my dads and he hasn't asked if i hve tried anything else bless him he is quite different from me you can tell they have a massive house and own like 7 houses that they rent out go on holiday like 3 times a year lol

[DJCliffy]

I wouldnt do drugs at my dads and he hasn't asked if i hve tried anything else bless him he is quite different from me you can tell they have a massive house and own like 7 houses that they rent out go on holiday like 3 times a year lol

Is it? ask em if they've got a house in brighton i can have or rent!!:love:

[lilmstrixta]

Is it? ask em if they've got a house in brighton i can have or rent!!:love:

na there all up north lol

[DJCliffy]

na there all up north lol

Dang that won't work. I know im gonna get me a caravan and live on the beach, Ideally a pirate ship is what i want so i can hold raves out on the open sea! that would be sweet!:crazy_dru

[MrAHC]

na there all up north loli had a few houses and a couple of hotels, but then my dog are the monopoly set :cry:

[lilmstrixta]

Dang that won't work. I know im gonna get me a caravan and live on the beach, Ideally a pirate ship is what i want so i can hold raves out on the open sea! that would be sweet!:crazy_dru

living in a boat would be quite cool

[DJCliffy]

i had a few houses and a couple of hotels, but then my dog are the monopoly set :cry:

Oh no, all that hard work gone in a matter of seconds!:weee:

[lilmstrixta]

Oh no, all that hard work gone in a matter of seconds!:weee:

gutted