Gotta bit of a dilema

[boothy]

basically right

one of my best friends is in a relationship, one we thought was really good. he's really happy and has fallen for her in a very short time. i was over the moon for the guy until...

i found out she cheated on him. i've looked into it as it were, and there's no fucking question that she has, and i know who with too (another one of his good friends, fucked up really)

now i don't wanna get involved... but i can't really not. he spends a lot of time and money on this lass and she's fucking him about. i'm dreadin tellin him, i dont care if he gets angry at me (no reason why, just people tend to in the moment after being told bad shit!), but i dont wanna fuck up what appears to make him happy.

but as a friend i can't really sit back in the knowledge that she's taking him for a mug. i wouldn't feel comfortable doing that, nor would it be fair on him if i didn't tell him.

sooo basically i don't really know what to do, i think i'm gonna have to tell him. how do you go about telling someone that?!

[Angel]

Maybe tell her you know and get her to be honest with him ..

[boothy]

Maybe tell her you know and get her to be honest with him ..

would that not stir the pot more though?

me and this lad are thick as theives have grown up wit each other, i dont wanna go behind his bacl

[Angel]

you should tell him then :group_hug

Can't be easy for you :(

[lilmstrixta]

Difficult situation, personally i would tell them both you know and that if they didn't tell him them you will but its up to you.

[Raj]

Ask her about it in front of him and then have your phone ring and leave? Or just tell him to his face and stop stressing about it.

[Tek Offensive]

ive been in this situation before, only the girl was as close a freind as the guy who'd been cheated on. although i pussied out on telling him, its hard to find a right time, and tbh their still together now and im sure she wont do it again. if she does then he'll have to be told.

its hard ennit, cos like you say why ruin something that nakes him happy, and on the other hand why hold back something that you would want to be told if you were in his shoes.

give it a little bit and gauge wether he needs to know i reckon.

[Digital-A]

first of all, do not let this stress you too much. I know that may seem like a dim thing to say but basically you have too many worries and stresses of your own.

saying something without evidence could come back at you twice as hard as not. This guy has obviously fallen for her, so this may pull the wool over his eyes and make him think your full' a bull ... so ... speak to the girl, just quietly ask her whats what ... dont threaten or anything like that, just ask and see what she says. she may open up a little more than you may expect and offer her some advice on what to do ... remember you know something that could seriously hurt people so do it right.

[hyperSkunk]

i always say that mates should stand by each other through thick and thin.......so if you believe that you was in his shoes, you think you deserve the right to know? you think that you're m8s should tell you? just put it in that perspective............

...im' pretty much on the same level as you m8.............at the weekend i was telling my m8s gf alot of personal stuff (we're pretty close) and then i sed something about her bf, my m8, and she flipped she went around screaming the place down and went up 2 him and started punching him..........im not happy about the situation...not because it turned violent................but because she betrayed my trust, i thought i could tell her personal things......but now i have to think twice........or find someone else.

[tarifa]

if the situation was reversed what would you like him to do and how?

difficult one boothy

[Tank Girl]

Agree pretty much with T

what would you want to happen if it were you? and do it - if you want,


difficult situation other peoplew=s relationships though

[DJ FATTMAN]

tell him dude, my ex was going behind my back with a good friend of mine. main piss off was that i introduced them.

ONe of my very good friends told me about it, but then alot of other friends backed her up so i didnt know what to think.

In the end we split up and within the week she was with him and he had moved into her house.

Yeah i was pissed off at her at making a muppet of me, esp cause i was payin the fuck rent!! But i was more let down by my mate fuckin me over.

If this guy is spending good money on her, well he needs to know the truth! He could b spending his cash on something more worth while.