Would you prefer a partner the same as you or the complete opposite?

[raverbaby]

I prefer a happy medium but as they say opposites attract.

[Shit Robot]

Like you raver i think a happy medium would (indeed is) best for me:weee:

[BioTech]

Same here.

If you are exactly the same then things can probably be a bit boring and you may also find yourself arguing more than you might think

Complete opposites would have nothing in common and you wouldn't be able to enjoy time together because each would want different things.

[raverbaby]

im not sure how yo edit the poll, so would i be able to get a "happy medium" option.

[General Lighting]

If you've not got "edit poll" in the top right hand corner of the poll let me know and I will add the other option

[raverbaby]

afarid i cant find the edit poll option. so if would be so kind as to add the other, option.

[General Lighting]

added :)

[raverbaby]

cheers mate.

[USE]

gotta be different. i tried going out with sketchy creative raver type birds, but while they were good fun, the whole thing got a bit wearing and intense. my current girl of 6 years is well square, has a totally different background to me, and has different interests. i think i need her to keep me sane! i doubt id be alive and well if it wasnt for her calming influence.

[latin110]

to have a calm partner if you're the opposite is good and v.v. Think that creates chemistry.

But regarding beliefs/ values and stuff, think its easier if you're similar. I vote happy medium!

[globalloon]

to have a calm partner if you're the opposite is good and v.v. Think that creates chemistry.

But regarding beliefs/ values and stuff, think its easier if you're similar. I vote happy medium!

agreed

[DJ FATTMAN]

i would say the same, just need to find a bird who's a dj, promoter, loves free parties and gettin pissed, lol

[missMushed]

me n my partner r the same but different! we like similar things, eg music parties (where we met) drinking, have the same oppinions to a point, and have the same future goals, such as wanting to live in the country, have a small holding, travel a bit etc, but the way we do things are so opposite it works, where I fall down he picks it up and vice versa. We work so well its almost strange. :love:

[Anarkismo]

Normally look for someone the more the same as me, but normally end up with someone thats completely different, so not sure what's goin on there :wink:

[e_babes]

Total opposite to me. From looks to thoughts and opinions.

Opposites atrract you know!!

[kaito]

Think you need some similar interests but only some - just some common ground to do things together really. For instance, me and my lass both have an interest in metal and thrash but she hates dance music and techno - as long as we have the metal in common then end of the day we have a mutual interest and options to go out.

On the personality level I tend to feel the same really applies - some things in common means you understand one another - but sometimes you need someone who has different opinions or comes at things in a different way to really deal with and get through a problem - for me the reason we are currently working well together and can see this one lasting a long time (though it is in the early stages at present so we shall see whether or not I'm right!) is that we both believe that we have a positive effect on each other and where we have personality faults the other person in the relationship seems to help fill those gaps and holes and help with the personality faults that are their making us both better people and both much happier in and with ourselves than before - the whole two become one thing, where the sum of the two parts is greater than either of us cud be witout the others influence - and to get back to the original question I dont think you get that if you are too similar.

[noname]

Dunno about a happy medium... What about a laughing large....:laugh_at::laugh_at:

Sorry... Bad joke jumped into head, and wouldn't go away...


Seriously though - different is better - if your partner is the same as you, there's no joy of discovery...

[spangle]

wud have to be mostly the same - the whole drugs and partying every weekend wud probably be too much of a problem otherwise!
that said thers parts of me i definitely wudnt like to see in a partner....

[raverbaby]

fhjy,fhj

["Sound-Guy"]

Would probably be the medium option. Would be happy with a raver girlfriend but at the same time i would benifit from someone different!

[SD]

fhjy,fhj



wtf

[quietRIOT]

complete opposite ...c ..mon bring it on ...would be an experience ...oh hang on...no.... i tried that married one ...nah didnt work ....opposites attract but not for me ...same same but different ..please:crazy_dru

[raverbaby]

wtf

I meant to say"that there are definitly parts of me i would like to see in a partner":groucho:

[SD]

I meant to say"that there are definitly parts of me i would like to see in a partner":groucho:



ooer :hopeless:

[quietRIOT]

ooer :hopeless:


sd ...YOUR JUST MAD FOR IT ARENT YOU ...YOU KNOW A GOOD FUKIN...BY MALE

[quietRIOT]

SOZ LOLL...I MEAN YOU FANCY A FEW GUYZ ON HERE ...OR YOUS ARE REALLY RANDY ,IM PISSED TONITE A BIT ..RED RED WINE GOES TO MY HEAD ....:crazy_dru CANT SLEEP SEE ...BIG INTERVIEW TOMOZ....EEEEK:love:

[SD]

sd ...YOUR JUST MAD FOR IT ARENT YOU ...YOU KNOW A GOOD FUKIN...BY MALE


Well... Raver is cute.....:groucho:

[kaito]

SOZ LOLL...I MEAN YOU FANCY A FEW GUYZ ON HERE ...OR YOUS ARE REALLY RANDY ,IM PISSED TONITE A BIT ..RED RED WINE GOES TO MY HEAD ....:crazy_dru CANT SLEEP SEE ...BIG INTERVIEW TOMOZ....EEEEK:love:


Completely off topic - but good luck with the interview mate - take it your still job hunting then?

[quietRIOT]

I GOT THE MUTHER F***IN JOB ABOUT A HOUR AGO .WHOOOO...SHIT !:bounce_fl IM DOING SUPPLY WORK AT MIN THIS JOB IS FULL TIME WORKING WITH A 6YR OLD WITH AUTISM ON A ONE TO ONE IN SCHOOL...ITS WHAT IVE TRAINED FOR ...GOD IM SCARED...BUT HAPPY.....:wink:

[Raj]

I GOT THE MUTHER F***IN JOB ABOUT A HOUR AGO .WHOOOO...SHIT !:bounce_fl IM DOING SUPPLY WORK AT MIN THIS JOB IS FULL TIME WORKING WITH A 6YR OLD WITH AUTISM ON A ONE TO ONE IN SCHOOL...ITS WHAT IVE TRAINED FOR ...GOD IM SCARED...BUT HAPPY.....:wink:

congratulations april

:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl:bounce_fl

I am sure you will do a great job

raaaraaaraaa

[kaito]

Cool - sounds like just what you were looking for mate - really glad to hear that news

[raverbaby]

Well... Raver is cute.....:groucho:

:shy:

[SD]

:shy:

Bless

[quietRIOT]

love is in the air .everywhere i look around ...:hiding:

[SD]

love is in the air .everywhere i look around ...:hiding:



Yeha, and its all your fault lady...... I never said a word about raver, you must just be psychic lol

Think ive scared him though..

And I am loved up anyways so hes safe :love:

[raverbaby]

phew

[magneze]

A happy medium seems the best result. If your partner was exactly the same then I think you'd both get bored ... whereas someone who was challenging you all the time would also get boring, just for different reasons.

[dodgymonkey]

Had a partner who was completely different (in all tastes inc. music n the party scene) and..... well it didnt work out - 4 years down the line I felt stiffled coz I gave up much too much...... def go for a happy medium!

[new_girl_in_town]

the same:love: :love:

[MisterDuck]

i dont really understand myself so to have someone understand and be the same as me would be my choice

[starlaugh]

Not really sure to be honest, i am very much like my girlfriend as we have similar interests. i think its more about how your personalities bond, we got on really well from when we first started speaking to each other.

[tarifa]

you've got to have some common ground, otherwise there's nothing to go on, but difference is nice, that way you each bring something new to the other

[Tank Girl]

Mr Tank and I have loads in common, most music, films, politics, sense of humour, morals, etc
but we also have different interests,

for example going to a 'rave / dance music' party is (in his own words)

'my worst fucking nightmare and no I dont want to go'

- so luckily when I'm able and have other people to go with I go without him (even 3- 4 day events) and I think our grounding helps with this .... so he wont be coming to the PV meet up as he's already refused, and to be honest he would hate it and be a miserable bastard as he'd feel uncomfortable so its best for both of us that there is a good level of trust!

[Playground Politics]

i agree with MRs T i think in between not to much in common and not nothing

[DaftFader]

yeah happy medium ... some one who likes the main shit i like .. but not exactly the same or it would get boring

[globalloon]

i wish i'd married someone who...

hated art
liked music played quietly
like TV dinners
worried a lot
hated sex
didn't like getting muddy or wet while going for a walk / bike ride

what a weird question. pointless even

[DaftFader]

rofl .. harsh but i see your point lawl