Is it Possible to Find Love on the Internet?

well it's all over the net match.com find love .com is it possible to find true love over the internet, can you really fall in love with some one you don't know at all. how can you be sure that it is love and not some false infactuation with some one who is feeding you a line of bull shit. how do you know they are being truthfull and how can you be so sure you are being honest as well i guess all you can do is hope for the best and if love is in the wire then i hope it is the love you are looking for.;)

went i chat to ppl on the net i tend not belive them most of the time but then most of them r after cyber sex n e way just pi**es me off

my m8 had a bad experience when a guy she met from a chat room stalked her for like a yr but then the silly fecker went and done it again but she is really happy with the guy shes with now they been 2 gether for 2 yrs and got a baby and another 1 on the way so i guess u can all depends on the other person really dont it

[General Lighting]

the net is only a large comms circuit - it doesn't really affect peoples personalities (although in some cases its nature makes it easier to hide behind a mask or pseudonym).

this makes it ideal for people who are actually a bit shy (like myself) but also for sociopaths and deviants - hence the risks, and those scum who just pounce on any girl they see and want cybersex ( I don't understand how anyone can even get satisfaction from this, some ppl are just strannge).

incidentally us blokes are also at risk; I know of incidents where ppl have been encouraged to meet a girl via a chatroom and during the "date" they end up being conned into drawing out a load of cash and are then robbed; or worse still they are mugged by a male accomplice of the girl who is waiting for the "couple".

but is the risk really any more than any kind of blind date (or even a normal date these days) in a bar in Cardiff or Reading? This sort of shit happens without the internet being involved... some people enjoy playing mind and power games as a substitute for relationships.

I'm glad 2 hear your friend met someone they love eventually.. but I wouldn't want to become a dad after just 2 years in a relationship! Not sure I want to become a dad at all at this time in my life - it would put an end to my freedom and looking after "y gath dew" is enough responsibility for me (it makes as much noise as a baby anyway).

GL/Reading

*---MISSION:IMPOSSIBLE !

[cliffchuff]

I know several couples who have met through websites, although it is a London based site and devoted to activism, i think on-line communities are as good a place as any to meet people, provided geographical restrictions aren't to severe. You still have to meet in the end:)

But it can be a good way to get to know someone, if you believe a similar set of beliefs is important in a relationship then it can save time chatting to attractive muppets:D

[Nomad]

Recently i met an American couple that i have been chatting to on another site,they themselves met online,and carried their relationship into the real world,so anything is possible.Although, the net is a strange place occupied by stranger people,few of whom are exactly who they say they are.

I know people who have got married and are STILL married after finding each other on the internet.

So.. I guess. YES.. it is possible. It seems so fraught with problems tho, i'm not sure i'd try it. Besides, I wouldnt even know where to start looking. Don't most of these sites charge a fortune for membership and stuff ??

Wookie

[Andy]

I could be really cynical and ask if true love exists as such, but that would be entirely too Sartrian and not very uplifting. So instead, I can add that a Dutch friend of mine met someone on the net, and I was best man at their wedding. Add to that, that if it is possible to meet someone on the net, it should be easier still IRL...

It is my understanding that love is everywhere. So therefore, love can be found anywhere.

[BioTech]

Well this doesn't really count because I knew her for 3 years already. But I got together with my girlfriend of 2 years through speaking via email and msn etc. Seemed to make it easier to be a bit more open with each other.

i think it is possible to find love on the net but it could take a long time because so many ppl chat shit on the net but eventually your bound to find someone thats not fake.

[globalloon]

this is a wierd story

a guy i knew (not very well) 'met' and american woman online and they formed a relationship

he eventually flew out to meet her for real

she had told him she was slim, about 25, good job, unattached etc

he got there and she was a 40 year old, 20 stone, mother of 3 living in a trailer in the desert making speed for a living

he married her anyway

and that's true that is :P

[General Lighting]

Originally posted by globalloon

this is a wierd story

a guy i knew (not very well) 'met' and american woman online and they formed a relationship

he eventually flew out to meet her for real

she had told him she was slim, about 25, good job, unattached etc

he got there and she was a 40 year old, 20 stone, mother of 3 living in a trailer in the desert making speed for a living

he married her anyway

and that's true that is :P

in some bizzare way (and if they're still together) that's actually a really touching story - after all he could presumably easily have given up or found someone else after these lies...

so I guess they must have had real feelings for one another anyway....

I can't help thinking of that "you're a piece of trailer trash" record that Storm play though :D

[sambo303]

I am not surprised ....love is amazing. I did not believe in love at first sight til i met my beautiful perfect partner - but it really had nothing to do with what he looked like. My brain tells me now he's gorgeous but the initial feeling which I cannot put into words was just a kind of wow to the whole energy of this person. That is love. The media make out it's looks related but that's horseshit. It's definitely smell, but something else we cant see/hear/smell/measure. I cant explain. All I can say is that I have found myself, I have found my definition of 'man' when I didn't even know I had such a thing as a definition of man in my head.

So, maybe it's the certainty that makes it profound absolute love rather than a fling with someone tasty.

Anyway, the only way of finding your other half, is to get out and about - any chance decision or change of plan could result in this fantastci miracle.

[mry]

The question is not really whether you could find love on the internet - of course you can! - so therefore I don't really understand these succesful "exemples" of love on the internet. Should I thereby conclude that, yes, its a marvellous love-culture-place/space? Well, its not. But its not deprived of love either. Whether virtual or real space, love is out there (or - in there...)

[General Lighting]

Originally posted by mry

The question is not really whether you could find love on the internet - of course you can! - so therefore I don't really understand these succesful "exemples" of love on the internet. Should I thereby conclude that, yes, its a marvellous love-culture-place/space? Well, its not. But its not deprived of love either. Whether virtual or real space, love is out there (or - in there...)

I think things have changed even over the last two years.

People actually have less time to socialise due to longer working hours, and many people of both genders are put off by the aggressive sexual competitiveness of the "cattle market" conventional meeting places like commercial pubs and clubs, at the same time many more people use the internet now (only a few years ago it was dominated by younger White or Asian males who worked as IT professionals.)

Meeting someone on the net can only be a precursor to meeting them in real life anyway, and there is the obvious danger of lies, fakes and trolls. the fees on dating sites are not just to cover hosting fees etc but insurance in case something really dark happens at a meeting and the sites brand image is wrecked by bad publicity, and also a way of detering the frivolous.

I still wouldn't use them TBH - there are also a lot of people who deliberately use them so they can play the game with multiple partners in different areas of the UK - OK if it is a swingers board than fair enuff if everyone knows the score, but leading people into thinking they are the only one is predatory, and fucks over everyone in the end (including the person doing it).

I heard of a person in our area who kept doing this with different girls; but karma caught up with him in the end. The last girl turned out to be lying about her age - now he is in HMP and on the nonce list!

Of course this could happen with real life though but sometimes people think because its the net you can get away with anything.

That said two people may meet partly through discussions on a normal messageboard or be brought together by one through shared interests, and have a genuine relationship.

(Although I still wouldn't think its a good idea turning any rave board into a overt dating board though - peoples emotions can be muddled by drugs and the moderators may end up having to pick up the pieces....)

You just need one hell of a monitor to do it though

Anyone tried

[Roly]

I dunno if you can find love on the internet, i dunno if i can find love in the real world :-(!! The lastest Mrs Roly has just dumped me, so for the second time this year i find myself moping about feeling sorry for myself! all of the women i've met in the real world like to go to 'music bars' where its five deep at the bar and pay a fiver for a bottle of bud while listening to kylie, but they'll never ever give real partying a go. Perhaps its me, perhaps its essex.

[mry]

yes, perhaps its essex. No, really, don't let a few bad experiences trick you you into the path of stereotypical thinking. That could real soon influence your behaviour... in a negative way.
I know plenty of chic chicks who like real partying.

[Roly]

no, i think its me!
I made a real effort last night, had some wine cooling in the fridge, tried to be a real george clooney, but got stood up! so i think i'm gonna become a monk or at least take a vow of chastity, then i'll be ok

[oli oi oi]

my mate posted an artificial intelligence program in a chat room and had guys flirting with it for ages. Fucking funny

[Roly]

yup, that is pretty funny! and you can bet they were all fat 49 year old virgins who still live with their parents from nowheresville usa!

seriously tho, we all pay isp access fees, surely it aint right to pay to put yourself in the public, on the market or whatever u wanna look at it, its still takes a lot of bottle for some1 to post themselves for the world to judge.
putting a pic up, takes a lot of gonads, especially if your not too pretty

classifieds sites, make bucketloads,the scripts do the work,
ok they mod them to an extent, but its really up to the users practicality and common sense, there's no moderating that, unfortunately.

on the net i reckon there's love to be found, u can judge lots of personalities by how people write. i just don't think that some1 should have to pay 4 the pleasure

like u said its impossible to insure a free site, but a credit/debitcard could be verified for a quid the rest should be sponsored by the like of interflora / cardshops etc

there must be satisfaction for the webmasters making people so happy

my 2p
:)

[ZeRasta]

well i know this guy from amsterdam i met playing online games and hes dead sound and is gettting married to some bird he met on the net from america and shes moving out there in a few months a i think so surely they cant all be phycopaths and perverts out there

well i met a girl on the net and we ended up chatting for ages before we ever met up and the reason being is because we didnt put on any fronts or any bullshit that you would normally get anyway. i met up with her on her own grounds and instead of coming to see her for a day, i ended up staying for a couple of weeks...when i got back we realised something was there so i moved in with her and have been for the last year and a half now and were moving into our own place in a few weeks. it can happen and it is possible but its all about how you are with each other...and isnt that just the same as if you met them in a club, pub free 1 or on a bus?....

love is love...strange thing innit...