How Many People Do You Tell You're a Raver?

[DaftFader]

i'd tell most people im a raver ... but if i get a vibe off them that it's probably not a good idea to tell them then i won't .. like my boss at work for instance

[DJCliffy]

Originally posted by DaftFader

i'd tell most people im a raver ... but if i get a vibe off them that it's probably not a good idea to tell them then i won't .. like my boss at work for instance

I told my boss about the rave scene! I'm trying to get him to go and try a pill, The only way he said he'll do that is if i go fishing with him and eat a maggot

[DaftFader]

Originally posted by DJCliffy

I told my boss about the rave scene! I'm trying to get him to go and try a pill, The only way he said he'll do that is if i go fishing with him and eat a maggot

haha .... i remeber when there was a place called bagleys open in kings cross london ... i went to a rave and straight to work afterwards ..my boss used to somke skunk ..and realy fucking strong head fuck skunk at that .. so i told him i had been raving ...he asked me (i later realised as a joke) did i take any e's ... and i just went ..yeah a few .. and man .. i wish i had a photo of the look on his face after that .. he was soo expecting me to go na ..

[Greb]

I'm pretty much open with everyone I know about what I get upto. Except I've never spoken openly with my parents about drugs, but never tried to hide it either.

Like when I'm going off to a rave, my mum might say "arent you going to take any beer?" and I tell her I dont drink at these things... shes not stupid, so i guess she knows.

[General Lighting]

unfortunately I think the media has a big impact

I know loads of normal people round here whom at the start of last years season thought "ah well its all harmless fun"

then when Anglia was showing footage of police cars being smashed up and riot squad etc that changed a lot of peoples minds, especially the police car being trashed

this might be an east anglian thing but the more stubborn one side gets the same happens with the other side, until the authorities end up sorting things out (its been like that since the middle ages apparently!)

[DJCliffy]

Originally posted by General Lighting

unfortunately I think the media has a big impact

I know loads of normal people round here whom at the start of last years season thought "ah well its all harmless fun"

then when Anglia was showing footage of police cars being smashed up and riot squad etc that changed a lot of peoples minds, especially the police car being trashed

this might be an east anglian thing but the more stubborn one side gets the same happens with the other side, until the authorities end up sorting things out (its been like that since the middle ages apparently!)

Human nature at it's best!

[Jimmytheduck]

I'm fairly open to people about what i get up to, i don't see to much harm in it and if i lie to they or hide my true self then you miss out on oppotunities. Howeve my parents have no clue, i'm a good boy to them, and if they found out i'd be dead, they're ridiculously old-fashioned idiots who know jack about the modern scene and are completely against drugs an stuf. These are the people who believe society is bein ruined atm. ALLOW

[Dasein]

I don't really care too much about who knows I'm a raver...Been going to parties here in Reno since '94...back then there was a little more buzz about it with police and parents and stuff but not really anymore. Our parties are typically permitted and fairly legal in spite of whatever shenanigans might go on once you're in the door. Thanks to the permit and insurance requirements for venues, the city and the cops are aware of us, but it pretty much stops there. The public, for the most part, still don't even know what a rave is. I don't really talk about the scene with professional colleagues or people at school unless I'm inviting them somewhere or passing out fliers, so it doesn't really come up with anyone who would think less of me for it and f--k 'em if they do, anyway.

Seems like from your replies, there's still a little more heat over there and a lot more public awareness...

[ellie]

I was wandering the other day what it is that makes me want to tell people at work that i like going to raves...cus its true there is a bigger chance that it would change someones impression of me from good to bad rather than the other way.

The reason, i think, is that its important to try and fight against the misconceptions and stereotypes - otherwise there will never be acceptance, understanding or even discussion.

I am able to go out to a rave on a weekend, take my intoxicant of choice, in all other ways obey the law, be polite to other people, and pay my taxes! Who would have thought!

[General Lighting]

depends who it is

I do tell people at work but to put it bluntly I can get away with it as I am in a management position and a key member of staff (the main resource for working on business-critical IT/Telecoms and providing financial reporting)

but dance music culture is now equated with chavs and crime by most normal people (and banter on other forums/social networks reinforces this stereotype)

even then there is a amount of resentment ironically from younger staff - many think "how can a chav like that get to a management position"? Luckily I do my job well so people can't complain, but I have to be very careful not to be sketchy/irritable after a long weekend..

the HR/marketing manager used to be a raver himself but gave up when he married/had kids, he is broadly supportive but also a bit worried about todays east anglian ravers complete lack of foresight or consideration for others, like me he feels the outdoor events should be tolerated but is obviously concerned about peoples safety at them and environmental issues..

[DIONYSUS]

try to tell as few people as possible, that way there can be no come back if i am a bit grumpy come monday/tuesday

[Dasein]

Originally posted by General Lighting

but dance music culture is now equated with chavs and crime by most normal people (and banter on other forums/social networks reinforces this stereotype)

even then there is a amount of resentment ironically from younger staff - many think "how can a chav like that get to a management position"?

What are chavs?

[Tank Girl]

Originally posted by Dasein

What are chavs?

a slang term used over here :

Chav (pronounced /ʧæv/), or Charv/Charva (pronounced /ʧɑːv/), is a mainly derogatory slang term in the United Kingdom for a person whose lifestyle, clothing (especially if fake / counterfeit), speech and/or mannerisms are perceived to be common, proletarian and vulgar. The term 'chav' is often used as a stereotype to refer to poorly educated, aggressive working-class youths, but youth and aggression are not the defining attributes of a 'chav'.



The term appeared in mainstream dictionaries in 2005.[1][2] There are regional variations; in the North East of England the variant charv / charva is most commonly used (particularly in Newcastle upon Tyne and Sunderland areas), while in the South East of England and South West of England chav is the usual form. Similar words in use outside England include "neds" in Scotland and "spides" or "skangers" in Ireland.




Response to the term has ranged from amusement to criticism that it is a new manifestation of classism.[3] However, it is important to note that chav is not a straight synonym for "working class person", but refers to a specific mode of behaviour, dress and speech that is far from universal amongst the British working class (although for the most part is restricted to it). The term has also been associated with juvenile delinquency, the "ASBO Generation", "Hoodie culture",


Etymology




The word "charva" has been in use in the North East of England since at least the early 1990s. The word "chav" has also been in use in Medway in Kent since at least the early 1990s.[citation needed] The two words are identical in meaning but it is possible that they may be etymologically distinct.
A possible etymology for "chav" is that it derives from the Romani word "chavi", meaning a child.[4] Related words derived from the same source include "charva" meaning prostitute (used in north-east England in a similar sense). In modern Spanish "chaval", "chavo" or "chavón" means "lad" (eg: El Chavo, a Mexican television comedy whose principal character is a street orphan).[5] The term "chavvy", for child or young person, is known to have migrated from Romani into the local dialects of Dorset, Somerset and Wiltshire in the post-war years, coming into common usage in the late 1940s.[citation needed]




Many folk etymologies have sprung up around the word. These include backronyms such as "Council Housed And Violent" and "Council House Adolescent Vermin".[6] It has also been suggested that pupils at Cheltenham Ladies' College and Cheltenham College used the word to describe the younger men of the town ("Cheltenham Average").[7]

[DiscoTeam]

4569874 thats how many

[Dasein]

I think that's what we call a 'mook.'

[twirlygirl]

I think I have told too many people in the past - will just confine it to good mates who aren't on my course or at my work, and my mum, seeing as once she knows something bad about me she will never ever forget, and periodically remind me that she knows!

[The Fungineer]

Hahahaha, pretty much everyone who knows me knows I am a raver, including my parents, all my mates (duh), my work colleagues, my supervisor at work and my personal tutor at uni. I'm pretty sure they all know what raving entails too. I don't really care if people think badly of it. ;)

[uglyprettytrash]

when i went to uni i didn't plan to tell people straight away, but i'd gone to a rave the night before and stayed until 9am so felt i needed to offer some sort of explanation as to my zombie-like disposition!

[wwbrighton]

always felt it's better to be open. thats why my mums fine with it.. this is the way it is and there are learning/career opportunities everywhere. "mum i got battered at the party last night, im not coming over" always gets a reasonable response. just head over the next day instead. my boss is fine with it as long as the job's done. people i meet will generally find out through conversation. they usually love it and get involved in some way like dj, lend/carry equipment or just come rave.. it's good to chat about it to find similar thinkers out there and push things forward.

the biggest 'problem' ive had is with certain people who drink at the pub i live next door to. my stepdad drinks in there and his mates / their mates can look at me like im scum sometimes. walking in after work in a shirt and tie has been known to provoke the "has he been to court?" question. closed minds

[shad94]

the drum and bass is not much knowless l will like more reconnaissance for this because is the music of future
good for the mind

[pre-s-ton]

i tell everyone, except my gran cos id never hear then end of it. she moans cos i have tattoos and smoke cigaretes so to go into the whole rave thing wud send her mad (at least madder than she already is!)
i tell me mum everything tho, was telling her all bout UKTek last yr after mishing bak from manchester, she sed it sounded like fun!

[marky g]

I dont hide the fact i go out n get munted an av a rave man has danced to music foreva wether in a club or in forrest were proper old skwl

[DontBeliveTheHype!]

Originally posted by Dasein

What are chavs?

boothy is one

[pixiegirl]

I've always been pretty open about the music I enjoy, the fact that my husband is a DJ and that I go out a lot at the weekends. Some people understand what that means, some less so. I never feel the need to go into too much detail, its not something I want to come across as bragging about. I'm very lucky that now my boss is one of my oldest and best friends, we've partied hard together and he knows me so well. All of my friends are part of the scene or have been or are at least understanding about it all. It is nice to be at a place in my life where I can be me at all times, not having to censor what I say. I've never had the drugs chat with my family, my mum is a widow but I know my dad was a cainer in his youth, all the signs were there I was just too young to notice them until too late. I'm pretty sure he'd have had some stories to share with me if he were still alive and that we would have been about to have an adult and mature understanding over my choices in life. I don't discuss it with my mum because I don't want her to worry. I'm sure on some level she knows, I don't hide the fact I go clubbing a lot and to festivals and the such. I graduated uni, have always held down a full time job and don't look like death so I think she is comfortable that I am taking care of myself.

[hairygrape]

I tell my close friends and that's it, unles someone asks. I wouldn't tell my parents, unless I knew they were going to find out. I have the kind of relationship with them that I'm pretty sure they know what I do, but understand why I wouldn't want them to know.

Usually with other people it comes up in the conversation of 'What did you do at the weekend'. Instead of saying 'I went to a rave', I'll say I went to a party. If they enquire further then they'll know.