How many people do you tell that you're a raver?

[starlaugh]

Originally posted by General Lighting

I think things are getting better as there are lots of people in their 30s/40s who were the original ravers - some may have calmed down due to having kids or more demanding careers but are still happy to hear about events happening...

They seem to really like to hear about it as they have said that they have lost touch with the scene but it still holds good memories, they always mention Pear Tree Roundabout in Oxford and the ridgeway a lot!

It is a nice feeling to be able to chat to someone who is older and more mature about what i get up to and they actually talk back sensible and don't frown upon me. Usually asking if i have tried doing this or that, if i say no they advise me to try

Some of these are my parents friends, i wonder how they would feel if they knew their friends we dicussing drug use andd raving with me

[phogeyman]

everyone apart from most of the people i work with ! as soon as i hear the term "druggie!" my barriers are up .

[TEK Tonic]

Family - all my family go raving with me, brothers and parents alike. In fact I have been made to feel out-of-place for having a nice quiet night in when the rest of my family were going out!

Work - I think everybody in my school (staff and students) knows that I DJ, they know I made my own speakers (those that were interested have seen the photo's), they know I go out "dancing" some weekends and most of my colleagues know that I was a raver when I was in school. I just don't mention the whole seedy drugs underworld and nobody else does either. I don't have a problem talking about "my wiley youth" or my knowledge of psychopharmachology that I gained during my degree but I wouldn't dream of talking to my colleagues or my students about my current useage as it is none of their business - I do a very good job as a teacher and that's all they need to know.

Ravers - I sometimes feel a bit out of place at parties where I am literally old enough to be the audience's teacher. I once got accused of looking like a copper on my way into a club, so I guess I have that authoritarian look about me.

In all honesty I think I get as many negative comments about my "other life" from ravers as I do from work colleagues. Teachers and grown-ups are generally open minded enough to not cast nistertions on people because of their hobbies, but some ravers with chips on their shoulders see me as some kind of sellout. I have not turned my back on everything I believe in - I teach future generations how to be open minded and think for themselves (or at least I try to). You don't have to be an eco-warrior or a political activist to enjoy a good party (although I have been both).

I know I live a double-life, but it keeps me on my toes and I manage to successfully work hard and play hard without either interfering with the other side of my life. It's only because of my god job and the hollidays I get that I have both the time and money to rave to my heart's content.

[tarifa]

Originally posted by TEK Tonic

In all honesty I think I get as many negative comments about my "other life" from ravers as I do from work colleagues. Teachers and grown-ups are generally open minded enough to not cast nistertions on people because of their hobbies, but some ravers with chips on their shoulders see me as some kind of sellout. I have not turned my back on everything I believe in - I teach future generations how to be open minded and think for themselves (or at least I try to). You don't have to be an eco-warrior or a political activist to enjoy a good party (although I have been both).

I know I live a double-life, but it keeps me on my toes and I manage to successfully work hard and play hard without either interfering with the other side of my life. It's only because of my god job and the hollidays I get that I have both the time and money to rave to my heart's content.

Well said

[PHARTY]

Originally posted by TEK Tonic

Family - all my family go raving with me, brothers and parents alike. In fact I have been made to feel out-of-place for having a nice quiet night in when the rest of my family were going out!

Work - I think everybody in my school (staff and students) knows that I DJ, they know I made my own speakers (those that were interested have seen the photo's), they know I go out "dancing" some weekends and most of my colleagues know that I was a raver when I was in school. I just don't mention the whole seedy drugs underworld and nobody else does either. I don't have a problem talking about "my wiley youth" or my knowledge of psychopharmachology that I gained during my degree but I wouldn't dream of talking to my colleagues or my students about my current useage as it is none of their business - I do a very good job as a teacher and that's all they need to know.

Ravers - I sometimes feel a bit out of place at parties where I am literally old enough to be the audience's teacher. I once got accused of looking like a copper on my way into a club, so I guess I have that authoritarian look about me.

In all honesty I think I get as many negative comments about my "other life" from ravers as I do from work colleagues. Teachers and grown-ups are generally open minded enough to not cast nistertions on people because of their hobbies, but some ravers with chips on their shoulders see me as some kind of sellout. I have not turned my back on everything I believe in - I teach future generations how to be open minded and think for themselves (or at least I try to). You don't have to be an eco-warrior or a political activist to enjoy a good party (although I have been both).

I know I live a double-life, but it keeps me on my toes and I manage to successfully work hard and play hard without either interfering with the other side of my life. It's only because of my god job and the hollidays I get that I have both the time and money to rave to my heart's content.

Top geezer this is the way to change things from the inside and with education the right education and eventually there will be enough genuine compassionate educated people in positions in society (I hope) to make society a better place

[tarifa]

Originally posted by PHARTY

Top geezer this is the way to change things from the inside and with education the right education and eventually there will be enough genuine compassionate educated people in positions in society (I hope) to make society a better place

Critical mass is what we need and if we all just push a little bit more . . .

[MrSinner]

Don't care too much to be honest.I am a fuckhead,but i know that my lifestyle has risks etc,but it's my choice.Whoever I tell or "finds" out about my second lifestyle I don't let em judge,because it's my choice and I know the risks.

My parents and little sis know I smoke ganja,but my mum's my Jamacian side anyways,so she can't really say shit.Otherwise..Im sure if they've been in my personal space they'd probably find all the incriminating evidence they need.But that's where trust comes in ;)

All my friends know I do what I do.Some of them are a worse caners than me and others them think im a right dick for it..that I should concentrate on other stuff.Point is I don't concentrate on caning,it's just a passtime :D. IMO though I get the job done and I still do all the stuff I should do work wise and favours for other people and stuff.I try NOT to be a lazy caner,because I can see how that would start fucking people off.It would be fucked if at college and stuff I start letting MY lifestyle fuck other peoples heads/work up.That's one thing I don't think I would feel right about.

I wanna do what I do and keep it to the people that do understand.The way I see it,is as long as im enjoying myself and not hurting anyone else,why should anyone else give a fuck

[little luke]

I tell whoever asks what I do (except for interviewers!). I usually follow up with "but I don't do drugs" though.

[meff]

I tell everyone and anyone who wants to know, i dont see it as something to hide!!!!!

[Tocooltom]

All my mates know i go ravin, alot of people i hav never met know i do too, but thats another stroy. My parents dont know anything about ravin and all the drugs, im thinking of telling them soon though coz its the summer and im gonna be goin every weekend. My brother goes ravin and my parents arnt too bothered about him doin it, but i think they will hav a problem with me going because i went to a private school and im quite clever, thats probably the only problem they will have with it.

[kaniebabe]

im open about what i do as its up to me..it not like i go around tellin random people but if they ever asked then why should i not tell them ..even thou ive only been to a few this year! got to stated goin out agian as i do miss um.....

[rocko]

Originally posted by Acidfairy

Where i currently work, so do most of the Edinburgh Techno/free party heads..

I'm intrigued as to where you work. I'm also really nosey.

Sounds like a good place to work wherever it is.

[cazpa]

nobody knows at work apart from one guy who i meet his brother at a party, witch is odd, nobody knows apart from my mates

[stompin-sarah]

im not bothered who i tell im a raver im not bothered wat people think if they dont like it then its tuff! lol......ive also just recently started takin my mum out raving with my crew!

[General Lighting]

Originally posted by stompin-sarah

im not bothered who i tell im a raver im not bothered wat people think if they dont like it then its tuff! lol......ive also just recently started takin my mum out raving with my crew!

lol fair play.. I've noticed a lot of that happening recently ....

[dodgymonkey]

Most people I know, know - with the exception of work (e.g bosses n shite coz that would not look good monday mornin would it?)

Even my mum knows! (within reason - again she doesnt need to know all the naughty details, does she?) god bless her little heart!!!

[bluepink_clefairy]

I'm open about it.. I don't tell everyone upon introduction... but if the topic arises, or if I'm excited about a rave I'm going to then I'll quite happily talk about it. I see no reason not to. =]

Friends, work, family, everyone knows really.. and everyone is just happy I'm having fun and am in a circle where the majority are really lovely and appreciative people. =]

[Vibration]

Originally posted by General Lighting

OK most of us ravers have a good network of friends; but how many other people do you/are you prepared to admit to that you are involved in the rave scene?

Parents/Work Colleagues/Teachers/Lecturers etc?

What sort of reactions have you had from them, and are there any people you are less happy about discussing your lifestyles with?

Well I just can't be arsed to lie to people. So my boss and all my co-workers know that I'm out there dancing like a monkey.

I think my co-workers see it as just some silly, nonsense that is more of an opportunity to just take the piss out of me than anything else.

I told my mother and she was seriously freaked out. Assumed I was shooting up heroin or something.

The funny thing is the closeted raver at work. Ages ago he was really annoyed with me for sort of describing my weekend to my boss. Because everyone knows me and this guy hang out a lot on weekends, and I didn't even mention he was there with me. But yeah, it's quite weird because everyone already knew he was into the scene, but he's just in denial that people know.

He advised me never to talk about it to anyone ever, but again, I just don't care to be secret squirrel for no reason.

I'm not telling his boss, or anyone else at the company, any of the madness he gets up to.

[hardcore veteran]

Ive allways been upfront about my lifestyle because it makes me who i am and i wouldnt wanna hide that from anyone.Im happy and harmless and i just like to av a good time and if smallminded people wanna make an assumption about me then fuck em.The people that matter know the score!!!!

[noname]

Yep - We will tell pretty much anyone - we've even told the in-laws, who are very straight, and swayed by all the news they watch/read, so quite anti. Their reaction was quite funny, because they suspected the worst, but couldn't prove that we are anything other than sane and rational (they've had the argument where they threaten to disown the missus already, and that didn't work out too well for them, as we didn't speak to them for 3 years. So now they're a bit more careful before they go off on one... You could see they wanted to though...)

Other friends or whatnot, we always see it as introducing them to the fact that the media lies, and that they shouldn't believe everything they read/see on telly. If they don't deal with it well, then that's their problem frankly.... I've been a raver pretty much since the term was coined, and though I don't go out of my way to bring it to people's attention, I'm also not going to lie to anyone....

[netrix]

i grew up with my mum on the rave scene, and my sisters have just started partying aswel, so my whole family know what i get up to, at work most "younger" people know what i do, but can be bothered explaining to the "older" people, just makes my life easier, the g/f is the complete oposite to me, she doesnt know what i do, and what i take, she doesnt question when i disapear for a weekend, which is a bonus i spose

[mou]

My family is okabout my activities they know me. Iam not bothered about to tell anybody that id'like to raving. Especially when my visage is not like ordinary people...Drug test - happend to me as well, random one, and then i was fired little bit scared about next one...

freeeparrtttyyy

[lillou]

my mums a raver so she didnt mind most ov da tym i went wiv er, my best mate n er mum so dat was cool, but my dad dont no nefing i dont see im much neway but i sure hes da same or was
i dont reli mind who nos i dont like ppl who are like hi im (lou) i luv raves n doin drugs n shit cuz there da loud mouths(if ya no wot i mean) but if it cums into convo den i dont care n most ov da ppl i mt r friends friends or there friends so there da same

[DJCliffy]

I tell everyone i meet that i'm a raver and a proud one at that! It's quality tho cos the majority of ppl i meet actually turn out to be ravers themselves!
I must be like a raver radar!